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I guess it's mostly a vent but I'm irritated that I even had a crush in the first place.
It wasn't one I wanted to act on either. Honestly, it did feel kinda nice to just have a crush and let it be that. It was more of an admiration for someone who I thought was cool, and was attracted to.
He is a music instructor who I took some lessons from on piano and guitar earlier this year and we stayed in touch because he offered to, and has, helped when I had questions on how to do this or that.
He contacted me the other day asking how things have been and to show me some music he thought I would like. Anyway the subject of my recent birthday came up and he said I looked really nice and look younger than my age and that he hopes he does too(we are both in our 40's) and he got flirty.
I know that he is just divorced as he mentioned maybe a month ago that he was dealing with finalizing it.
Then, he said he has a crush on me. I answered "well I have a bit of one on you too, but i don't really think it's a good idea to date someone whose divorce is so fresh"
His reply: "who said anything about dating or romance?"
I didn't answer this text. Then a few minutes later, " i think though that we should be friends cause I think you are cool. But you are really hot. Wouldn't want to mess up what can become a really good friendship"
This irritates me so much. I guess it's time to block. I think he was maybe implying he wants to hook up or something.
I feel stupid for even admitting to him that I felt the same. But whatever. I wasn't really thinking and not sure what kind of outcome I expected from that. I guess it's good that he is a proven scrote now.
I can't help but to have my feelings hurt now and I feel insulted. Of course I wouldn't date him in the future anymore like I may have considered otherwise. It's just put me in a bad mood the past couple days and I needed somewhere to vent. I guess it is time for me to read the handbook again. I am angry at myself for the ego boost that must have given him.
If he wanted to, he would. It seemed cool that he did seem to be a caring instructor who did help and check in on you, until I read about the fresh divorce and the comment about who said anything about dating? I interpreted as that he was also saying you're hot, flirting, etc because he just wanted to get you in bed: the "friends with benefits" thing.
Being freshly divorced, his ego is more fragile than usual and men also can't process their feelings. I'm sure he's upset, angry, or depressed in some type of way for a marriage to end (and women unfortunately pickme women especially) tolerate way too much scrote nonsense before FINALLY ending things. Women usually initiate divorces. So he's not ready to date or anything.
It's in your best interest to delete and block. Step back at bare minimum