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If you post anything about your life structure
That doesn't align with FDS values 100% wholesale, theyll quietly recatagorize your post to Pick Me Confessional.
I made a post about my post (which I deleted and will not go into I'm sorry) whereas my personal life structure is different than what is normally the sought after structure. I wasn't claiming it was better, nor was it a plea for others to align with me. I was merely explaining how toteable FDS is and that it's highly customizable, resulting in a better life. I also discussed some things about motherhood and agreeing with the idea that securing and maintaining a sense of self is very important.
I got bullied and very nasty comments on my post, from women who claimed to know more about what sort of decisions I need to make for my life. My post was changed to Pick Me Confessionial and i was called all types of names and told that I was disgusting. Again I did not describe anything disgusting, sexual, anything positive about men or pick Mes, or anything really crazy at all.
My reaction to this was to cancel Patreon and start considering if FDS is really something that I should continue. I've read Fds since 2020 and have had great success with it. But the reality is that for really basic reasons, I was bullied and called disgusting and had my post catagory switched under my nose. Seems more like mean girl actions to me. I can't discuss my life or my experience (again, without promoting it as better, but just talking about MY life) so really what do I do? Sit here and read up on the experiences of women who hate me for literally THE MOST basic things?
FDS is actively anti-sex work and anti-polyamory. A natural result of saying your life involves those choices is going to be viewed negatively by most on here. I’m sorry you experienced bullying and harassment. There is a militant, rigorous undercurrent of FDS, because otherwise it can be a slippery slope, but you are certainly free and encouraged to apply FDS principles to your own unique unconventional circumstances. However, don’t be surprised or hurt when you go into detail about those choices and they’re not supported within this community.
So you're asking us to judge FDS but don't want to talk about the post that was deemed problematic? I don't think anyone can really judge the truth of the situation without actually seeing the post that you are referring to. Otherwise, this just comes off as whining, to be honest.
A pickme is a pickme. FDS is pretty clear about what constitutes pickme behaviour, and that won't ever really be up for debate as far as I can tell, nor should it be. Since it isn't clear what your post originally said, it's hard to judge what is actually going on here. But you were called "disgusting"? That seems a bit harsh but now I'm really curious about what was said. There have also been males here masquerading as women, so maybe women here are just very sensitive to anything that seems like nonsense right now.
That aside, it really isn't really necessary to do "flounce" posts. If people don't wish to be here or feel that there isn't anything here for them, it would be nice if they just left and didn't feel the need to create drama on the way out.
I do find it slightly annoying when a woman posted here about how to help her son get a girlfriend but I would never be nasty, I just ignore posts I don't like or report it when it's bad. I don't want to read about mothers with their sons. It's FDS not how to prevent a birthplace for scrotes.
Yeah FDS is meant to be global but a few of the values are very USA centric, and you occasionally get backlash from some posters if you question any FDS rule, even if you have a reasonable point. I generally agree with the idea of "female benefit" dating and the feminist centric nature of FDS but I find some of it too prescriptive and about some notion of "femininity".