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Yet another "Sexpert" telling women to lower than standards to benefit men.
A NY therapist has advice that "'The concepts of "don't give away the milk for free" and "they won't like me anymore if I give it up too quickly" are old and antiquated and can create so much shame for people of all genders.'
Well, of course it creates shame. And it should for any lvm, nvm- if you are not worthy of my time, effort, and energy.
However, what she writes is false, men don't feel ashamed at all for wasting women's time and quite the opposite we will feel ashamed.
The reasons for having sex on a first date such as determine a second date are also scrote logic and completely unsafe.
"' I like seeing if they accept my kinks before getting emotionally involved' - 20 per cent"
Uh,*nope* hard pass.
The relationship expert said for some people having sex right away is helpful in determining if they want to go on a second date.
There is nothing to be proud of about a walk of shame from someone we did not properly vet. And that's why it's called walk of shame...because somewhere deep down we realize that person is not properly vetted. It is not referred to "walk of shame" when we allow ourselves the opportunity to experience time spent with a high value male who treats us with respect.
A man who respect a woman and values them will won't be ashamed of any time he spends with us and we won't either. [edited]ETA: just posted to remind us that yes, no shame in having sex on our terms. That's great but sometimes the advice giving "in the real world" is to benefit men who are not worthy of the what we are giving, (particularly on a first date where their goal is to pay for a date to "use" women.)
Ironically, the very men who are low value enough to use women also the same ones with madonna-whore complexes and shame us for the very things they use us for, so the advice in this article was not even well-meaning, in my opinion.
Every FDS podcast, particularly some of the ones on the Patreon reinforces that we have to set our standards high.
Men haven't changed one iota since the beginning of time. They push for sex with every woman they meet but hate the women who are easy. It makes no sense, but it is what it is. Men will shame you for having sex with them. They'll tell their friends all about you, too.
I remember on one of the FDS podcast episodes, they mentioned there aren't any actual qualifications required for someone to be a "sexpert". They call themselves that, and that's all it takes. So yeah, we're all better off ignoring their advice.
It's so disingenuous for this so called "expert" to only bring up "shame" and "old fashioned ideals", omitting the many practical reasons for not having sex with strangers.
Let's cut the shit, having sex is literally putting my life in someone's hands. Can I trust him not to give me diseases? Or harm me in any other way? Do we have consensus on what to do if I get pregnant?
I can be an idiot sometimes, but not so much of an idiot that I would trust some random guy I just met to be truthful about all of those things. I don't suppose a random guy cares if I die from cancer caused by HPV, years after catching HPV from him. Yeah, there's a vaccine, but it doesn't cover all the strains.
This advice for people to have sex before getting to know each other puts real people in real danger.
Yes, the recent FDS podcast on Glamour Magazine’s PickMe rhetoric explains this generally as having to do with the ownership of many of these “sex sells” publications and looking to print stories for cheap that will also keep women under the boot.
Honestly the entire history of psychology, ESPECIALLY as it pertains to sex, is poorly-disguised male propaganda. This advice is plain dangerous to women--we are supposed to carry pepper spray in case a man accosts us, but a random stranger on a dating app is ok
Heads up, ladies: Sex therapy is a joke. It's unregulated, there's no standardized treatment or training, and the field caters to libfem bullshit. Only go if you want to waste money getting "treated" by someone with questionable credentials whose idea of therapy is giving you xeroxes with fun facts about BDSM.
Source: Tried a sex therapist for a few weeks, fired her because she was worse than useless. She did however tell me all the problems with sex therapy as a field, which was the only useful thing she did for me.
And when the scrote will spread the world like wildfire that you are a cheap whore? isn’t that reason enough to be ashamed? I don’t even know when it’s the right time to give men sex because most of them are even willing to wait for years until they ghost you. The only protection is marriage or registered partnership.