Hello, ladies! So, if you follow me here on FDS, you know I've given up on men a few years ago and I don't really care about finding the one anymore. I'm happy solo and I want to remain so. However, every once in a while, I'm cursed by intense sexual desire - and for the wrong men 🙄 After all, I

There's a cycle I've noticed over and over again with men in my life from my father to male relatives and my own past relationships - the men always gradually keep asking the women for more and more, while he does less. And then, he will have the audacity when she is clearly overwhelmed and drowning

Lately, I’ve been thinking of using OLD apps again, but just for August. So, I got nothing planned for next month since all my friends are doing stuff with their SOs or they’re just not available. I have been off the apps since 2021, and some of my girl friends are telling me to reconsider since t

Hello! Firstly, excuse my English please, I'm not a native speaker :) So a few weeks back I was at a club for a friend's Bday and talked with a guy while waiting for my friend. We kinda had a nice conversation about his job in the cinema industry etc. and I saw that he was acting interested but I

I fell for a fuckboy on OLD. We had so much chemistry I slept with him right away. I ignored so many red flags and everything I’ve learned from FDS. I feel so stupid now, down in the gutter. It’s rare for me to find a guy I’m actually attracted to. He ticked so many boxes for me. I keep going back a

Wish me luck, will be breaking up in about 6hrs time, today is the day. I've had enough, I've stayed too long, I've put up with far too much and sacrificed too much. I've been stupid when I do know better. I will treat me better, I will love me. Yes I'm scared of tough times ahead, but times are

I met a guy, thought he was cute, didn't really think much of it. Although I know men and women can't really be friends...I think I engaged in one hoping that maybe something would happen, and also to unfortunately just maybe fluff myself up with the feeling of "Look at me, socializing and talking t

Instant regret as I wanted the last say. Never confront a narcissist... or paragraph a man. They just don't care. The irony is he cheated on me (texting ex)... and says that I am untrustworthy.

Please use this post as a lesson learnt. I ignored red flags in a relationship of 4 months. I've just ended this relationship after finding out: • he was seeing prostitutes before he dated me and never had been std tested in his life (this is why the handbook always says to ask for proof before be

I hate men but a part of me still seeks their validation. I feel like getting married is the pinnacle of my life. I feel myself preen and get flustered when Mr. Nobody McFee III talks to me in class or when I'm out. I feel trauma bonded and attached to a man who d@te r@ped me, taking my virginity, a

While we’re on the topic of exes coming back- This man afforded me an amazing winter romance, cared and gave and paid for me like I’ve never seen before, until he ‘confessed’ to me he was a cuckold. He was the reason I signed up here to get a second opinion that would yank me out of it. From then

I have outbursts of pick me ism, mainly cause I am from a very traditional culture that is very misogynistic. Also I am autistic and I never had much going on with men, I was always invisible to them and in my culture marriage for women is a huge thing, women often baby trap men to ensure marriage a

I mean, you would think that I would break up with my first ex when he traveled cross country for a week to visit his woman friend, they shared the same hotel room! BUT NO. I was waiting for him at his house when he arrived back from the airport. Or, when he physically trapped me in a room multiple

I met a guy on a dating app (I know, I know) and had a good "feeling" about him. We chatted for days and then on a Thursday he asked me if I was free for Saturday for coffee (🚩). I said I was free Saturday afternoon for drinks/apps. He responded "that should work for me." (🚩). I did not hear from

UPDATE: Super-Scrote!! I did some digging (insta, FB, their business blog, etc). He is MARRIED, and he hit on me like that? His wife is beautiful and they have a baby. I wanna barf 🤮 what a POS 🚮 In case anyone takes a Chios yacht cruise from Mykonos, I'll post his pic in the comments so you can

Thanks FDS for helping me put on better glasses! 🤓

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Back when I was still a pickme, I gave this guy "vinny" a chance. We were sort of aquintances with a bunch of common interests, and he didn't call anything a date. It was more like hanging out - everything involved driving myself to the same area and meeting up with him. He was a good bit older than

Hi loves, I'm writing this post instead of reaching out to a man who I love very much, but who I need to let go of. I'm in my early 20's and have survived years of emotional abuse in a controlling household to graduate university early. I will be starting a job in viral research soon, where I will b

Sisters, over the past few weeks or so I had a crush on my boss. He checked off every box that I had being that he was handsome, tall, and there was an appropriate age gap (3 years) between us. He had no ring on his hand. In addition, he was polite, and an active listener. He had a cute smile and

I know that FDS rules say that crushes for women are of no use. But I just feel so overwhelmed right now. You can knock some sense into me, but at the same time I hope you guys understand where I'm coming from and can empathize a bit. This probably sounds like a pickme manifesto to you lol. So I've

Met a guy on online dating. He seemed good on paper: cute, nice smile, nice body, employed, creative, close to my age. He invited me to bring some of my art over and we could compare notes, then cuddle and make out. I said "I'm sick, maybe later" and said maybe instead of just bringing art over we

Ugh. Talk to me please! Today I turned down a kind gesture in the grocery store. I'm in Italy this week, and don't speak Italian. But I understood that the man in front of me was kindly saying that I should check out in front of him, because I only had 3 things and he had a cart full. He was p

First off, thank you from all my heart that you're taking the time to read this. I'm miserable right now and need a safe space to speak about it. I know I'm the idiot here and thought, why not list all of the bad things that this scrote has done to me so I can somehow move on. This is a long post,

I had vented twice about how I'm single in a small, misogynistic, non-western traditional culture and I'm facing lots of pressure and I'm almost 24 years old. And that in dates I usually am told by men that they don't want to be with me cause I don't have enough curves. I was in a despair moment and

Hi, everyone I hope your weekend went well. I just wanted to emphasize there is a lot of rhetoric surrounding ex's and 'situationships', and especially 'FWB' making rounds. I feel like many young women are being put-down for being out of relationships for too long, and also due to socio-economic r

I guess it's mostly a vent but I'm irritated that I even had a crush in the first place. It wasn't one I wanted to act on either. Honestly, it did feel kinda nice to just have a crush and let it be that. It was more of an admiration for someone who I thought was cool, and was attracted to. He i

I developed a crush. At first it wasn't much, though over the months we had some moments that I perceived as potential interest on his part, which contributed to that romantic projection. I am glad I found FDS and followed the advice of not acting on it, although I wish I was able to do the internal

Hey ladies! Sorry for troubling you all with this rant but I'm afraid I'm feeling a bit rubbish. I was seeing someone for about a month and a half, I know it's not long but he's the first guy I've liked in over 2 years (I've been on a few dates but I never ended up finding the guys attractive enough

I'm beginning to get pick-me vibes from this women I meet once a week at tennis club. Idk, but my pick-me senses are "tingling". These are the signs and instances that I picked up on over 2 years of being within proximity with her. • She enjoys being in the presence of attractive men. At firs