I literally just saw something that made me even more convinced about this path. It was a woman describing how she had three children with her husband in the past 4-5 years and her husband was apparently checking out other gorgeous women, which made her feel incredibly insecure to the point that she wanted to get plastic surgery. She mentioned feeling really insecure about her looks, especially because she said that she used to be really beautiful when younger, but pregnancy took a significant toll on her body. I believe she also had a traditional dynamic where her husband worked and she didn’t and stayed at home and took care of their three children. They also married relatively young, when she was 23.
Another point about single motherhood by choice! If you have a child, (hopefully with family support) without a husband, you don’t need to worry about being cheated on, or them no longer finding you attractive after pregnancy and childbirth, or them expecting sex after childbirth, etc, that sort of thing.
Another dynamic I’ve heard of is where a woman will have a child and her mother (the child’s grandmother) will help out, with her staying home and watching the child while the mother goes to work. So, this has the grandmother in the caretaking role while the mother works and they care for the child that way.
Another detail - if a husband really loses interest and no longer finds his wife attractive, will he stop supporting their child(ren) as well? So the loss of that financial support, if the husband even provides that, adds even another layer of stress to this.
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I'm not a fan of "just let grandma move in and take care of the baby for free while you work" thing. No woman owes you unpaid care work. Not even your own mother. Not even when it's her own grandchild. You may profit but it's a terrible, terrible idea for her.
This just sets women up for poverty and dependence. Who's paying for grandma's health insurance? For her retirement? How is she going to build savings? What is she going to do when the grandkids are grown and she can't find a new job to support herself? What if she gets too old or sick and needs a caretaker herself? Can you a afford to pay for a nanny and grandmas retirement, healthcare costs and spot in a care home for her out of your own pocket? Do you really expect your own mother to live the rest of her life financially dependent on you and asking you for pocket money?
Just imagine someone would post "My daughter wants me to quit my job to move in with her and take care of her newborn for free fulltime for the next decade or so while she works. Should I do it?" here. Who in their right mind would tell her "Sure that's a great idea."?!
honestly, I don’t support unfaithfulness and making your partner insecure in a relationship, but if she were to start checking out other men, I don’t think I would blame her
Single motherhood has been the best part of my life, honestly. Being married made me want to light myself on fire.