It’s Okay To Have Children On Your Own

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. And I always encourage any woman to really consider this option when she hasn’t had any luck finding a decent man but still wants to be a mother someday. Many, many of us have given up dating all together. We are content with our lives and are at peace. However there are some who long for a family, for children and are broken hearted over the idea of not having them simply because there aren’t any worthwhile men around. So many women are feeling rushed, they’re running out of time to have children, they’re at a certain age and have had no luck finding a mate. Tick tock, says the biological clock. 

I’ve been thinking about how vilified single motherhood is. How shamed they are. How society looks down upon them. How it seems every “professional” is talking about how selfish and horrible it would be to subject a child to only having one parent. They try to scare us into talking about the statistics of what having a single mother does to children. All the negatives. All the implications. How everyone tells women to stick it out in their horrible marriages “for the children.” What they don’t touch upon though, is all the harm that comes to children who have a toxic/neglectful/abusive parent in their life instead. Yes in a perfect world, every child should have two loving parents who add to their lives. However that’s not the world we live in and that’s okay. No life is going to be completely perfect. 

I feel that motherhood is the last obstacle women need to overcome when it comes to finding a man or not. Because if the masses choose to just have children on their own, we truly will never need a man again. They will be completely and utterly useless to us and that is what they fear the most. Completely happy and content women. Raising happy children. No worries on custody battles, compromising with someone else when it comes to your child. Every decision is yours and yours alone. Of course single motherhood is no walk in the park. It will be hard work. You will need a village and a support network. You will need to be prepared for a lot. And if that’s not something you’re prepared to do by yourself. That’s okay. But it’s an option to play around with in your head. We all know many women who are married or in relationships and they’re already single mothers because the man doesn’t do anything. So how about cutting out the middle man and just doing it on your own in the first place. Less headache. Less stress. No compromises.