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This article made my skin crawl. An excerpt:
"We need to respect what these guys are doing, linking love and provision in a way that's meaningful to the child," Edin said. "The child support system weakens the child/father bond by separating the act of love from the act of providing."
https://hub.jhu.edu/2015/06/15/how-low-income-dads-provide/
Ummm... no. They are not supporting their children through "in kind" contributions. These gifts cannot feed them, cannot clothe them, and in a sane world, would be used as evidence of wilful nonpayment and disobedience of a court order. But we're not living in a sane world. We're living in scrote world.
I had a friend whose ex worked a very lucrative job under the table and would fly in by helicopter to see their kids, showering them with gifts. But he wouldn't give the mom a penny in support, and she had to work 3 jobs just to stay afloat.
Disgusting. Queens, do not date men who have under-the-table jobs. If they hide money from the government, you better believe they'll hide it from you.
I’m not entirely against this if a “deadbeat” dad pays for “big ticket” items in full in lieu of the full court ordered amount, like daycare/school/college tuition, health insurance/medical bills/medications, travel expenses, etc.. But I do get the point as well.