Writing this cause I saw a post in a mental health subreddit of someone saying that they dated a guy that was already married which children. The man ghosted them when the op didn't want a threesome.
The op then said that they knew it was wrong but they did it because they were lonely and felt like they were going to spend the rest of their life with this man.
I felt this so hard. I never dated married men or anyone with children cause that's an instant ick for me. But I have gone into situations that I knew were terrible for me just because I was lonely.
Men really are like sharks and they smell desperation. That's why I'm glad fds promoted leveling up your life and loving your own company so much that you don't care whether you're single or not.
Right now, I don't really care about dating. I mostly rage about men because of the horrible things they do, but I don't really care for dating. Sometime I feel pangs of anger and wanting revenge because I got played by a scrote.
But that's it. That's just my ego talking. Which is another point. Please avoid making terrible decisions because of your ego. I know a few women who don't want to get divorced from abusive scrotes because they don't want to feel like a failure or like they're unwanted.
I truly believe that one of the most important skills to develop is coping with loneliness. It's hard and it can be brutal to be alone. I've been alone much of my life. But every time I got involved with men because of my loneliness, I have endured some of the worst pain I've ever known. It was not worth it. I got nothing of value from these cretins. My light was dimmed and I've had to crawl out of a hole multiple times.
Deal with the loneliness better. It's imperative. Read books, learn new things, watch documentaries, listen to audiobooks, tap into your creativity, join online communities and get active or join irl ones if that's an option. Just being on this forum gives me a small sense of purpose. Connecting with other women can reduce loneliness. Get a pet.
Put your love somewhere other than men. Men will not take away your loneliness. Often, they only increase it.