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Back in the days when I was a huge pick-me I thaught it was my responsibility to show some clearly f*ucked up, emotionaly immature lvms to show them that I am "wife material". Yes, I cooked for them the most fancy things you can imagine (of course I did also the majority of grocery shopping and payed for it, too). I baked, not just delicious muffins and cakes (you know - it was his birthday and he was too lazy to bake a cake himself for this lvm friends who he had invited over for a low-value birthday party - just cheap beers and my cakes) - but also fresh bread every time he had a night over with me. I also listened to his problems, washed his pijamas he left at my place and helped him find a better, higher paying job.
Here is, what I got in return:
Nights of awful sleep deprivation due to his constant snoring and farting (both was eventually realted to his poor food choices and weight gain trough the relationship).
50:50 - I would say it was more like 70:50, for he sometimes "forgot to take his wallet" or his credit card "didn't work")
Cheap ass gifts he got from the gift store while I got him expensive brand stuff
His unwashed ass, mouth and rest of the body who eventually turned me off that bad that my libido literally comitted suicide
A cheap ass ring from etsy for around 40 $. Not even a promise ring - a "relationship ring" - needless to say he always "forgot" to wear his one
Constant negging, triangulation and other psycho sh*t for he had no self-esteem and was always looking out for a better woman, because he already got everything from me without investing anything
At the end of the relationship, I felt constantly tired, depressed, had gained weight myself and I looked awful. This went on for months after the break-up. It literally took me almost a half year to recover.
After two years, I finally left him. I got nothing, ZERO out of this relationship, he got everything. Don't do wifey shit. Do not even buy or make breakfast for these scrotes. If I knew then what I know now I would have dumped him after the first few weeks, because that was when the first red flags appeared.
And needless to say, I always had a bad gut feeling about him. Always. I will never ever spend money, time and energy on a man again, if he hasn't proven himself first. Period.
"I baked, not just delicious muffins and cakes"
This reminds me of one of my friends answered a guys prompt on dating app, he said something like
"What would you bake for me" and she answered "banana bread"
He told her that every woman on that app says banana bread. So she responded
"You should feel fucking lucky I'd even offer to do that for you"
😂
I did something immature in retaliation, I answered the phone and the dude was eating, smacking and slurping, It got on my nerves so I asked If I should call back later when he's done. He was like no it's okay, So I went to the bathroom I put loud speakers on and took a dump and he could hear all of that. He got offended but I don't care, You can't call somebody and talk with food in your mouth.
Manlets will never learn proper manners.
In romance novels you can imagine sharing a bed with the love of your life, you wake up and rub his heart, he then grabs your hand in response to that, so cute and so wonderful.. but that's fiction,
In reality men are ill mannered ogre's when you allow them to move in.
I had no idea about male snoring until I finally got married. I could feel in through the floor of our two level townhouse. The reduced lifespan made sense then.
The fuck even is a relationship ring. Why the living fuck would someone be like here is a shitty ring but just so we're clear it's a shitty fake ring that does not mean what rings mean and not an actual ring. It's just one big neg.
I totally get you on trying to prove to our lvm ex’s that we are wife material… meanwhile they haven’t even proved to us that they are worth our time!
Your story has similarities with mine. I’m glad you are on other side now.
Good for you!!!!!! Another Queen leveling up!!
Question: how did you know his ass was unwashed? I’ve read a comment on the FDS Reddit about a woman who can *smell* poop / a man’s unwashed ass so easily. Did you smell it or did you see him in the shower not washing it?
When I would take showers with my ex, I noticed he didn’t wash his ass. I thought maybe he was embarrassed? If someone ended up on the cloth?
Also, I personally use an entire separate Wash Cloth to wash my private areas Vs my face / body.
He uses the same WashCloth to wash his uncircumcised penis and body and face.
I would always tell him in the shower, you can use this separate cloth to wash yourself down there. But he never did….
"my libido literally comitted suicide" - this is the best thing I've read all day! I literally cackled hysterically at this because I have been there sis...don't worry, she comes back when the coast is clear 🤣
Thank you, I needed to read this tonight. Affirms my gut feeling.