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Hi wonderful Queens,
I'm wondering if any of you have some experience in having a tattoo removed. In short, I dated an awful LVM many years ago, who kinda pressured me into getting a tattoo. I remember thinking how I didn't really want to go ahead with it as I was getting it done, but the scrote kept telling me "you regret the things you don't do." Wrong. You regret the things your gut told you not to do. For example, dating the jobless scrote in the first place.
The tattoo ended up being much larger than I hoped for because of the detail needed. As a woman in my 30s with a fantastic career and strong education, this tattoo is not who I am and I want it gone. Tattoos are just not for me. A saving grace is that the tattoo is on my rib cage, so it is never exposed. However, every time I'm getting changed I catch a glimpse of it and cringe. I don't want to be reminded of a scrote and a very low point in my life.
Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated 🙏🏽
Hey! I had my ankle tattoo laser removed by a dermatologist. The doctor made anesthetic injections into the tattoo area before the laser, so it didn't hurt at all. For me it took about 6 sessions, it left a light colored scar but I honestly barely noticed it there. I strongly recommend you get your tattoo removed if it makes you uncomfortable, but make sure you find a legitimate professional who will save you a lot of unnecessary pain.
I'm glad you made this post. I was having the same feelings and made the choice not to remove it.
I have a few tattoos, and I really like them. I'm also in my 30s, and I have my own business in a white collar profession. But, I have one tattoo in particular (ironically, the one I get the most compliments on) that I got at the lowest point of my life, when I was dating an abusive alcoholic.
For a while (and sometimes still to this day), I felt so much shame about this ONE tattoo (even though I have like six or seven others???) and sought advice from my friends and family. Even my mom, who doesn't like tattoos, could tell that my feelings were about so much more than the tattoo itself. Btw, this tattoo in a similar area of my body as many of my others, so it's not more or less visible, and is quite similar to my other tattoos as well.
Eventually, I made peace with it, forgave myself for the choices I made during that period of my life, and started to acknowledge that it's part of my story. It's a good reminder of how far I've come. And, I'm not sure I want to spend all that money and go through all that pain to hide a part of me.
This is my experience, but you should make the right choice for you!
I‘m having a tattoo removal. That went pretty well for me, considering that halfway though legislation changed here and only doctors are allowed to remove tattoos now. Luckily, the laser studio provided for that. The PicoWay got all the black out. Red as well. It is difficult to get the remaining light colors out like turquiose and especially yellow. However, I‘m quite happy now, as it looks a lot smaller without the black background and got more of an aquarelle look instead of the flashy original look. Some hardly visible scars remained from the original tattooing process. Be prepared for the treatment to hurt and also that you will need a lot of treatments in case you have a big colorful tattoo. Besides, this is a long process, you will need progressively longer breaks in between the treatments, I'm taking months inbetween and I have a one year break from the treatments coming up to let the skin regenerate. Also, you won't be able to expose the skin to the sun or go swimming for longer periods of time.
I admire your takeaway, "Wrong. You regret the things your gut told you not to do."
This is key for all of us women! Its ok to have regrets. I really think that I had to come to terms with the fact that you can have regrets and still be at peace with where you are and want better. All of this can be possible, as, in life, there are always multiple truths and complex ways of dealing with things.
The truth I am learning is that there are no lessons to be learned from the abuse we suffer with toxic men but there are lessons once we heal. The healing is where all the lessons are, not the actual abuse that is not ours to have accountability for.
Thank you for sharing your story. We can both regret things in life and wish better for ourselves without letting that regret destroy us or become our sole focus, and that's where we empower ourselves to make thoset tiny changes needed to set the boundaries for a better version of us than before.
As for your tatoo removal, good luck! I know that for many us, if we could remove a scrote from our distant past, as easy as removing a tatoo, would all sign up, no matter how painful.😂
ETA: BUT the main thing is FDS is showing us that we should have compassion for the older versions of us because without that version we cannot begin to be the bright and beautiful women we are slowly becoming. It is a process.
Some tattoos can be surgically removed. It depends on the size of the tattoo and its location. The pros: you know for sure the tattoo will be gone, you get it done in one go, you get quoted a fixed price. Cons: scarring. Then there is laser removal. I know people who have tried for years to get their tattoos removed this way, so the results vary. Pros: could work on any tattoo. Cons: painful, results are unpredictable (some ink may never lift or may fade unevenly), can be costly, no one knows how many treatments you need, must wait for months between treatments.