Most people don't know the difference between self-esteem and self-worth. Dating without good self-worth can be harmful. You might feel safe because you have FDS and good self-esteem but you should work on your self-worth before dating.
What is the difference?
Self-esteem is what we think and feel and believe about ourselves. Self-worth is recognizing ‘I am greater than all of those things.’ It is a deep knowing that I am of value, that I am loveable, necessary to this life, and of incomprehensible worth.
You get self-esteem from being good at something. You get self-worth if you work at truly loving yourself. Self-worth means loving yourself even if you are bad at something, even if you messed up and it makes you forgive yourself.
When you try to date you can be really good at it. Vet really good, go on excellent dates and block and delete like a master.
If you deep down have low self-worth then dating will wear you down. Because dating can suck even if you do everything right. It's a luck and numbers game so you have to have intense belief in your own worth whatever the outcome.
So before dating, or if you are dating right now, check in with your self-worth:
How do you feel when you lose?
When you have a bad day at work?
When friends disappoint you?
Do you still believe in yourself?
Can you be sad, angry and disappointed and still care for yourself?
Good luck queens and stay strong healthy and with rock solid high self-worth.
Such a great reminder. I really had to work on this in the past few months, after a dating disaster. I thought I could handle everything and was so confident and happy, untill I met this guy and my self worth took a serious hit. It really taught me the difference. Working on that is super important.Thank you!