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This is all very accurate. When we are unhealed and in fight or flight mode, we can be very easily emotionally dysregulated and we only exist in black and white. I'm not saying this to blame people who are still in survival mode, this shit takes time to heal. All I'm saying is that we need to keep in mind that our sensors for the "right" amount of closeness are not calibrated correctly if all we've known is abuse and toxicity. You don't fix this by pouring more and more into the bottomless pit. The reason we chase drama, seek validation and feel easily offended is because we're trying to fill an emotional void, but it cannot be filled by external attention. It can only be filled by YOU. You might think this is sad, but it actually means you have more power than you think. No matter what everyone else thinks, in the end, it only matters what you think. Even the positive things! You are way less likely to get attached to the wrong people just because they offered you a little bit of affection when you aren't desperately in need for that affection to feel okay.
Love this post, and I think it’s also worth mentioning that healing isn’t a linear process. You will make progress, and you will backslide. But, our brains love patterns, and once you see them, you can’t un-see them. So, that is how we learn and move toward healing.
Perfectly put, and SO relevant right now. Hermit mode is a thing for a reason, and you can tell who's avoiding it