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Ive seen videos from Queen channels like Mahogany pink, Paris Milan and Lexus and There are so many videos popping up about Hobosexuals and men who literally tell a whole audience with women that if a man pays for you then she owes him her box. and you see shorts about men splitting the bill as soon as the woman says no to sex and all the manlets call him a hero for putting that woman in place while in reality He’s acting like a child who got denied something he wants.
It’s very disturbing because we all know how loud the Manosphere would screech If a woman was this “self entitled “ and claim that If he wants a baby from her then he owes her all his resources. If he doesn’t do that then he can’t have visitation rights.
Anyway a lot of women worry about being too selfish but you are not. Kindness doesn’t give men access to your time or sex. A broke man isn’t entitled to enter your house just because you’re shamed into choosing out of love only. Women stick around in marriage/relationships because shes their partners caregiver and ignore that gnawing feeling that she deserves better because she doesn’t want to be seen selfish.
Women remain in close contact with their ex because he’s the father of her children because she fears being called selfish by her children or the others for denying that man access to her own home.
and I find it disappointing that even women who agree with FDS claim it’s important to stay in contact with him, no his children can do so but you don’t have to do anything. When a relationship is done then so is your daily interaction.
You shouldn’t remain in contact with a man like that, there is nothing selfish about not wanting him to arrive at house to see his kids, he can pick them up or return them at your doorstep.
or cut all personal contact and only respond to him when he has questions about his children through emails or any form of formal way of communication. Because all you are doing is making him feel at ease breaking up with you, He can show his peers that he’s still a nice guy because all his exes are still talking to him.
You don’t owe men civility when you are done with them.
Like when you‘ll tell the police “I don’t answer questions” to avoid have anything used against you, you should tell the baby daddy “I only deal with hearing from you when it comes to visitation planning” to avoid the same thing.
Women fear the word selfish so much that they put themselves last all the time.
But you only have one life, you don’t know if there will ever be an after life. You can’t afford to put yourself last in the only life you have. If you put yourself first and be great to yourself like a Queen then you will know that you don’t need others especially men to be at peace.
State your boundaries and limits clearly. That really shows some people’s character and not just men. Any narc, any immature person will explode, rant, rave, pout. Big whatever, let them pitch a fit. You are doing what’s right for you (and/or kids or other family) and at the same time, not punishing or being controlling. They can respect your boundaries or die mad.
I am kind of afraid to go on an actual date with a man. My only serious relationship began as a friendship. I was raised to put myself last (like all women, it seems) and I struggle with feeling worthy enough to be treated respectfully (like, the man paying for dinner) while not simultaneously "owing" him something after. I actually feel fear of a guy having an angry or violent response. I think I'm just not going to date.
>Women fear the word selfish so much that they put themselves last all the time. That is by design. That is why they put that fear in our hearts. To uphold male supremacy.