Your dating life isn't a court of law. You don't have to prove anything to anyone, be cross examined or give a statement.
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May 14, 2022
Amen girl. It was so difficult rejecting men and breaking up with men. But if men are the ones who want to break up with you, they become ruthless af. Men are conditioned to be go getters and they feel entitled to have whatever and whoever they want. Women are conditioned to be more considerate and giving. We have to learn from the men on this one because they are not going to reduce the scrote audacity. We women got to be audacious af. Honestly dating someone in the same social circle as you can make it difficult to reject or break up with a person. eg workplace, church etc
Also, waiting for "proof" or for that "last straw" could be a way to subconsciously avoid having to be the one to break it off, or at the very least a cope that keeps you in status quo because not doing something is always easier than doing something.Speaking from experience. My ex was an abusive malignant narcissist and I was stupidly always waiting for him to do the next worst thing and boy oh boy THEN I'd leave. But I was always moving that goalpost on myself.
I fucking hate how many exes have hounded me for not giving them a proper "reason" when I've said no to things or dump them (even though I DID give them a reason).It's never a good enough reason and they will demand you over explain so they can nitpick every detail for their self-centred pursuit of "muh closure". Closure comes from YOU, not hounding someone else to do your internal work for you. If someone didn't give me a thoroughly explained reason for wanting to cut ties with me, I would just leave them alone. It can't be that fucking hard, can it.
This! Honestly men drop women unexpectedly and women stay much longer than they need to. If you don’t feel loved appreciated or respected, LEAVE! It’s ok if you don’t have solid proof, just your gut feeling is proof enough!
Yes . We women need to learn this behavior . Men drop their gfs and wives by just saying " oh I was just feeling it " we need to be ruthless and not allow men to waste our time. No arguments no reasoning not " communicating " . We need to leave asap as soon as we feel we are not getting respected or getting the treatment we want
Additionally, even if you have bulletproof, irrefutable evidence of these turds' behavior, they'll frequently just deny it straight to your face because they're incapable of taking responsibility for their behavior. Once in my early pickme days, I showed a scrote his written admission of his awful behavior to prove that the events occurred. He looked me right in the eyes and denied it happened. It's just a recipe for crazy-making. A man is not entitled to your energy or presence, and, as OP pointed out, you don't need to prove or justify your reasons for leaving.
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Amen girl. It was so difficult rejecting men and breaking up with men. But if men are the ones who want to break up with you, they become ruthless af. Men are conditioned to be go getters and they feel entitled to have whatever and whoever they want. Women are conditioned to be more considerate and giving. We have to learn from the men on this one because they are not going to reduce the scrote audacity. We women got to be audacious af. Honestly dating someone in the same social circle as you can make it difficult to reject or break up with a person. eg workplace, church etc
Trust your gut. Always. Cue dancing lobsters. Amanda please!
Just say "I'm sorry I don't think we're a match/meant to be together/this isn't working" and leave with your dignity.
Also, waiting for "proof" or for that "last straw" could be a way to subconsciously avoid having to be the one to break it off, or at the very least a cope that keeps you in status quo because not doing something is always easier than doing something. Speaking from experience. My ex was an abusive malignant narcissist and I was stupidly always waiting for him to do the next worst thing and boy oh boy THEN I'd leave. But I was always moving that goalpost on myself.
I fucking hate how many exes have hounded me for not giving them a proper "reason" when I've said no to things or dump them (even though I DID give them a reason). It's never a good enough reason and they will demand you over explain so they can nitpick every detail for their self-centred pursuit of "muh closure". Closure comes from YOU, not hounding someone else to do your internal work for you. If someone didn't give me a thoroughly explained reason for wanting to cut ties with me, I would just leave them alone. It can't be that fucking hard, can it.
This! Honestly men drop women unexpectedly and women stay much longer than they need to. If you don’t feel loved appreciated or respected, LEAVE! It’s ok if you don’t have solid proof, just your gut feeling is proof enough!
Additionally, even if you have bulletproof, irrefutable evidence of these turds' behavior, they'll frequently just deny it straight to your face because they're incapable of taking responsibility for their behavior. Once in my early pickme days, I showed a scrote his written admission of his awful behavior to prove that the events occurred. He looked me right in the eyes and denied it happened. It's just a recipe for crazy-making. A man is not entitled to your energy or presence, and, as OP pointed out, you don't need to prove or justify your reasons for leaving.