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Posting a mini-rant here because it's honestly bothering me so much, but basically, after a long day of working and classes and studying, my brother invites me to come out to a nearby mall to meet up with him. I'm halfway there when he tells me he's with a coworker. I'm exhausted as hell, but okay fine, time to meet new people, so I grab a small coffee and try to get myself in a pleasant mood.
So I finally get there, and it turns out my brother is with his coworker (a woman) and her boyfriend. Okay, two new people lol. I approach them and greet my brother first and greet his coworker. Right off the bat, she is all shifty-eyed and has this annoyed look on her face. My brother introduces us to each other, I'm trying to be friendly even though I'm tired as shit. The entire time, though, she is totally unreceptive to me. I inject some humor in the group converstion from time to time while we talk, I am making it obvious that I am joking, but she continuously brushes it off and ignores what I say. She's a nurse, so I ask her a simple medical question thinking, again since she's a nurse, that she would be intersted in that kind of converstaion. I thought (my bad) she would happily answer, but she just gives me the most terse response ever and like I just asked the dumbest question ever. At one point, my brother goes to buy a drink, leaving us alone together, so the coworker and her bf just turn away from me and talk between themselves.
Ugh, whatever, I'm feeling tired and don't have the energy for this shit, so I just go on my phone until my brother finally comes back.
Seriously, how do you all have energy to socialize? I always feel like I'm put through the ringer anytime this happens.
You prioritize yourself always and if you’re not feeling up to something have no guilt when it comes to saying no. if someone isn’t receptive then return the favor. They dont exist to you either.
Its really irked me in the past but I’ve found that you should only go and hang with people who truly respect and value you. Go where you are wanted!
always put yourself and your rest first and foremost as a woman.
Its not you, its her. She was giving you that weird unpleasant attidute. My advise is next time she or somebody like her ist around have one try to strike a conversation and if that fails give up. Let her stew in that misery then. There is no need to appease some stranger who signals to you that your attention is unwanted.
This is really rude and annoying. I've experienced people switching behaviour mid way which makes it seem like something I did was wrong 🥲 even after calculating responses.
I've started choosing very ruthlessly when and who to hang out with.
How annoying! I wonder if she thought you were there to steal her man, or something equally as dumb? I guess she could also be a male-aligned woman who is automatically hostile to any woman she meets, too. I’ve heard a lot about the mean girl to nurse pipeline, and since my mom recently completed a round of chemo, I can say I’ve seen it firsthand. I’ve had similar experiences in social situations, too. For some reason, I’ve got resting nice face, so people always approach me to say hello, and then just stand there and expect me to do all the heavy lifting in the conversation, while giving one-word answers in return. And then give me nasty looks when my frantic efforts to entertain them fall flat. I’ve recently decided to simply return the energy I’m given. If the person who came over to talk to me won’t put in any effort, than neither will I.
Oh sis, your brother put you in such a weird situation with these assholes! No need to suffer in silence. Just get up and leave the next time you are made to sit with anyone giving you a silent treatment like that. Your time and energy are precious!
I'm a nurse. Without knowing too much about what your question is, I can only say that we get medical questions all the time, and it can be frustrating. Most of us are overworked, and when we're not working, the last thing we want to do is be put back in that mode. However, I can also say that a lot of nurses are mean girls. There's a saying: "nurses eat their young" and this applies to the general public, too. Some are loaded with knowledge, but they hoard it for themselves. They are the types to laugh at new grads and mock them for simple mistakes. There are also those who, when they don't have the answer, scoff and change the subject, rather than admit it. I found this to be true for many of my nursing instructors. Whenever a question was too complicated for them to explain, they would act as if we should already know the answer, rather than tell us what it is.
At any rate, what an annoying situation your brother put you in.