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Ding dong, the witch is dead.
And I haven't missed her once. I knew I wouldn't. She saw to that when she shattered my heart countless times growing up. There just wasn't anything left to grieve her. The relief is palpable.
I've waited 30 years for this glorious moment, and now I'm free. I never have to be the parent again. Ever.
This woman was a demon who terrorized me and my siblings. No self awareness, massive hypocrite, and trafficked in emotional abuse. Huge pick me as well.
I'm so happy she's dead.
Her ashes are sitting in my den, and it was nice telling her exactly how I feel. I read her the riot act before bringing her in here. That felt nice, to finally have the power.
I'm just so relieved. My heart goes out to every FDS lady in the same position. You know exactly how I feel. I just read "Never Simple" by Liz Schier and couldn't recommend it more if your mom is mentally ill. My mom was a combo of Jenette McCurdy's emotionally abusive mom and Liz's mentally ill mom. I don't know how I made it out.
I know I've mentioned her shittiness a lot in my previous FDS posts, so felt it appropriate to share the finale with you all.
It takes a lot, lot, lot for a child to be relieved a parent is dead. It means that a parent has to be REALLY toxic. Although I'm not exactly like you, I feel that I would have a lot more freedoms if my dad were not in the picture. I still need him in my life (I wish that weren't the case), but his existence means that the life of me is slowly sucked and sucked out until I'm probably literally 50 years old. If I were only a caretaker role, I would actually not begrudge it, but it's not about that. It's sad, I actually HATE acknowledging that the only way I can be free is for him to die, because if he dies, he can't come back, you know? The dilemma I feel is excruciating.
Speaking as someone who grew up with an abusive mother, I get where you're coming from. I hope now you can find some peace.
It sounds horrendous saying congrats that your mom is finally dead! But as a fellow narc abuse survivor I completely understand being raised by these demons and enemies that never loved you. Congrats the demon is dead!
I have a pickme mother, few days ago she lied to me, saying she need to have money to pay the electric bill and is stressed out, as a fool I took the bait and gave her cash that i could have used on promoting my self published novels, Later I found out that she used the money to help her alcoholic brother.
And now she's acting like a victim because I got angry.
I will have mixed feelings when she dies, Never once did I felt like I was first in her mind, It was always some male who was the center, her LVm flings to her criminal brothers and have herself as a free nanny for their love children.
So I understand that you feel nothing.
Not everyone will understand. I'm waiting on it too
That’s a lot to process, I’m no contact with my whole family too. Im so happy you feel relieved and that we are ushering in a new era of normalising cutting of toxic families. Raise your glass!
Honestly I felt this so hard. My witch is still on her broomstick but she is certainly a blight on my life. Hopefully you heal and enjoy life experiences without who was "supposed" to be maternal in your ear bringing you down.
I’m happy for you!
Congratulations! XD ❤️
I know how you feel, I wish I had the strength to hate her as you do, I have no idea how I still love her.
Either way it must be amazing to feel finally free, I hope you continue to live a wonderful life, now without any horrible people threatening that happiness 🙏❤️
Congratulations on your freedom and I am so proud to be your FDS comrade. Thank you for celebrating with us.