Remember that nothing you do will ever make you as good as your golden child brother, at least not in your parents eyes! But in real life, you are killing it! Unlike your brother who has skated by getting praise for just existing, you have learned to WORK for the things you want. And this has made you smarter, stronger, and just straight-up badass! It may seem unfair at times, but look where you are and where you are headed! Would you really want to trade places with the golden child? I wouldn't!
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Much needed. My younger brother while kind gets by on living at home, playing video games all day and never having worked a single day in his life as a 23 yr old. Gets praised for existing 🙃
This post made me LOL because my mom adores my two older brothers. 1st one - isolated his wife and kids from everyone .. she doesn’t drive or own a car and they only go to places he chooses to go to. He also abuses his kids verbally and physically like he did to me and sees my parents once in a while. He is my mom’s fav .. and she keeps always saying stuff to get him back in my life and I said no. He is not welcomed and he will never be part of my life or my son’s. 2nd - he got separated from his wife while having two kids under the age of 2. They had an argument and he broke her phone .. I’m sure he was cheating on her or whatever .. he is also a yeller and I can’t stand the way he talks. He is 40 years old and moved back to my parents house. Doesn’t clean after himself or his kids and expects me to clean after his kids or watch them just because I’m there .. I told my parents I will no longer go to their house and if they want to see me and my son, they are welcome to come over. I genuinely don’t care about who my parents like or praise more because if I listened to my parents, I wouldn’t be where I am today and I would’ve been still stuck in the arranged marriage they put me through. Do You Queens 👸🏼
I get called lazy if I don’t do chores while Im the one who gets good grades and get up early. while a Nephew slept in on the day where he was supposed to have a job interview. The company didn’t take him and he got upset. Another dude in the family got a job at a supermarket and got fired the same day because they stole money from the cash register. while these golden children are seen as future men of the house and their mothers are praying for a wonderful woman who takes them out of love and understands them...
But I who wouldn’t dare to arrive late, is called lazy Just Because I’m not a man who has the privilege to sit on his ass.
I am definitely the scapegoat daughter, but didn't understand it till I recently due to fds advice. I always was blamed for everything. Both my older brothers are cut out of my life. I never understood why I was so hated when I never did shit to them. My crime was being born.
I don't have brothers, but I'm still the scapegoat.
My mother will worship my exes, or my male cousins, or men who murdered their wives on TV.
I wish I was exaggerating.
ah yes…my younger brother does work hard (i think) and gets to enjoy a conventionally successful life influenced by the fact that 1) he’s a dude in a patriarchal society, 2) my engineer father prepared him for an engineering degree, put him in organized sports, etc., all the things to ensure his success in a patriarchal society while making sure i knew that my value was tied to my looks and ability to do things for others, and 3) he didn’t have to be a buffer between my mother and LVM cheating, abusive father. golden child indeed. f*ck the holidays. i straight up ignored my family this christmas in favor of my own mental health and peace of mind. it was glorious.