Jealous of pickme friend? 😐

"I don't know what I actually envy, since I don't feel any urge to actually try casual or online dating."

This might be worth probing further for yourself, maybe with meditation/journalling/etc. Where does this sense of lack come from? What is it you really feel you're not getting, as your life is right now? Do you feel stagnant/bored/lonely/insecure about your popularity/feel like you're 'not getting enough love'? Where is that coming from? Is there time and space in your life for something that feeds your soul, but you haven't put it to work yet? Do you need to slow down and reconnect with yourself so that life feels of a better quality?

Not to be an insufferable prick, but, whenever I'm looking at something "out there" and becoming convinced it would somehow fix all of my feelings and give me a dream life, it's usually a sign I need to turn inward with my energy and efforts and ask what's really going on.

I've always been jealous of the cool girls in school and college because of all the attention they get but at the same time I didn't want to do what you descrived your pickme friend does, which i always felt was a requirement. As a women it often feels like you only have 2 options: degrade yourself for a scrap of recognition or be treated like you dont exist which is messed up.

I envy how guys are just allowed to exist without aby of this stuff.

I honestly think you have nothing to worry or be jealous about. I use to be that girl. Casually dating LVM and having lots of casual sex I thought I was having fun at the time but really I was just deeply insecure and loved the attention. But with that comes a lack of self respect and boundaries. Looking back I wish I would have taken that time for myself to level up and improve my own confidence, as well as, hanging out with my own friends. The only thing you are missing out on is persistent BV, raging yeast infections, and orgasmless sex. Also it’s like you said she is just pretending. You just keep doing you and keep your standards high sis 👑

plot twist: she feels the same toward you.

I too went through a time where i said, but if i lower my standards, I'd have this wonderful life, only to go one to one with the people and they confessed their life is nothing that magnificent and that they're mostly lonely while they envy someone like me who keeps her standards high.

Your friend is selling you an Instagram version of casual sex- I guarantee she isn't having as good a time as she says she is. I've had men take me some pretty cool places- but it always takes several dates before we do anything interesting. If I had slept with them right away -none of these men were worth my time anyway- plenty would have disappeared. You can date and have fun without sleeping with men- that your friend hasn't realized that she doesn't have to sleep with these men shows she has a transactional mindset towards these experiences, that bc these men were nice for 2 hrs she owes them sex. She isn't having as much fun as she pretends- it's really gutting when a man disappears on you after you though you connected, throw sex into the mix and it's even more insulting

It is never like your friend makes it out to be. Men will stand on their heads to get their dick wet, what your friend is experiencing is various methods of ‘game’ to bed her. I doubt she she feels very SATC; it doesn’t feel hot to never hear from a guy after having sex with him. Please stick to your gut and your instincts — I never felt more alone than when I was hooking up with guys on dating apps looking for that unattainable validation…