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I've been taking a break from all social media aside from the occasional check-in since the first week of January. I've also been limiting the access men have to me, except for the male family members I love and trust and the occasional dude at work I can't avoid because I felt this coming on and thought a break from the internet hate would help. It really hasn't.
I had a huge group of peacocks show up in my yard a few days ago and I've been trying to find the owners while they hung out with my chickens. Made a FB post about it to the county open forum and people have been sharing it. Today an old high school friend commented that I should keep them, she would love them but her husband would freak out if she brought more birds home and I responded that I was single, if I decided to keep them there was nobody else in my house to freak out about it and the amount of sheer HATE I got from random men (in a chicken keeper's group for this area that I don't even know who tf they are) was astounding. My sister and I ended up taking down our posts because of it and are just going to wait for the county grapevine to do it's thing (not as fast as FB but it'll get the job done). I never responded to these men and I just reported and blocked them but some of the comments were especially unhinged.
This shouldn't even phase me. Steelheart isn't an IRL nickname of mine for nothing. But being this was a completely innocent 'come get yo burds outta my yard' and really should have stayed that way it's making me rage in a way I haven't felt since I was married to the manchild.
I know it's just these men coping, I know it's dumb and stupid to let them affect me, but I took a break to stop feeling this way and it all just came rushing back the moment I saw all of that. I'm beginning to wonder if there are any decent men left outside of my family, and if I'll ever find one that I want to keep around for more than the thirty seconds it takes for him to open his mouth. I'd been thinking that I might want to try dating again and this has completely shut that desire down.
I'm feeling angry (and that's a woefully inadequate description), tired, and hopeless. Help me please.
EDIT; I just spent an hour going after my heavy bag and then a nice long bath, and I'm starting to think what's bothering me the most is the death of my hope that I'll meet a good man I can love someday. I've been cataloging all of the interactions I've had with men IRL since my break and it's pretty bleak. Today may just have been the final straw. I'm not sure how to deal with that so I'm just going to sleep and hope I feel better in the morning.
Edit 2; I spent some time with my dad and assorted uncles/cousins/male friends that might as well be family today and I am feeling better. I've been in the shop alone most of the last couple
weeks keeping the amazon orders caught up and doing some organizing since most of the menfolk have been off working on the new hay barn around plowing and sorting cattle for the spring breeding groups. Today I was finished by 10 am so I showed up to help on the new barn and the first words that were said to me were my big cousin asking me what was wrong with my jeep that had me popping the hood in the driveway when he drove past this morning. He had every intention of fixing it for me on his lunch break if it was still a problem. He's only a few years older than me, so there are good ones in my age range out there. I just have to find one that's not a blood relation lol.
So sorry. I've made simple comments online about being single, CF, and appreciating my freedom. Random scrotes always come in and attack me. Despite the fact I just point out how much I personally enjoy it, they immediately see it as an attack. They're programmed to see any woman happy with being alone as a personal attack. As hard as it is, try not to let it get to you. Scrotes gonna scrote.
"I know it's dumb and stupid to let them affect me"
They're the dumb and stupid ones, not you. It's normal to feel angry when you're treated rudely and unfairly.
I feel the same way towards men as you do. It feels like I'd sooner meet an alien than a good man to marry.
Same here! They're all the same..male psychology. With no empathy for women only what we can do for them.
I actually think there's a lot of women who actively hate men but there's just a few that are willing to accept that fact and not lie to themselves and others about it.
I never hated men until these disgusting trans beasts invade our space, and policing what we are or not entitles to, they call safeguarding our rights and titles transphobic and these creatures have the vile nerve to invade menopause groups, please explain to me why a fcking male needs to be there too?
These beasts claim that they are not stealing anything from us but with the same mouth they believe women organizations where Frankenstein transvestites are not allowed deserve to be boycotted.
They refuse to advocate for their own spaces and they link everything to racism, " Oh you don't want a trans woman in? well years ago they didn't let black people in"
These creeps don't understand that women's rights are not human rights, It's our rights and ours alone.
They try normalize slurs against us such as Uterus haver calling it a medical term, The medical term of a woman's body is " Adult human biological female"
Uterus haver or menstruator is a slur because even animals have a Uterus and can menstruate, when you address a woman by her organs then it's a slur because you are disregarding that she is a human first.
They have paved the way for more predators to enter our space because Identifying defies reality, a man in Texas invaded a woman's locker room completely Sky clad with his dong out saying he's a woman wanting to shower with the women and refused to leave.
A courageous Girl saved a preteen from being r@ped by a man and the woman of the year award goes to..
Dylan Mulvaney, A disgusting lowlife Man.
There is no such thing as a trans woman, Just invading predatory misogynists in wigs.
I could go on for hours giving reasons why I hate men with every viber of my being.
I don't understand how they are not embarrassed or have no shame spewing bs while showing their face on that site. It's pretty wild to me.
i know it feels like a curse right now. but trust me, it's a great gift. this will help you identify HVM more easily if one ever crosses your way ('cause they are rare). and if you never meet someone, just know you'll have more time and energy to yourself. i think hope is a weakness because it thriws us into bad decisions and terrible 'love' traps. beaing a realist is way better than being hopeful.
Men like that are not just coping. They are seething with rage. Single women are proof that women don't need men. They see women, especially women who live in houses as being hoarders of wealth they themselves can not own. They want to destroy everything women have independently.
There are still good men but not many. You have to carefully sort to find one. Even men who might have been okay once are corrupted by the toxic culture we have with instant information access. Ask your male relatives for a suggestion of someone they know who is decent. Men usually know men better, unless they themselves are stupidly naive.
Theyre war animals with astoundingly different brains than us.
They are our consumers more often than our partners.
I occasionally date them for shit I want while being a bitch to them, but never for love or ACTUAL protection. I don't let men into my home.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. What did the men say?