This is about my workplace. Arguing with my upper managers is pointless. Because even me protecting my boundaries is perceived as rude. I usually greyrock those people, but sometimes my anger is so great, that I end up crying. I would love to yell instead of crying, but that's not "acceptable". I will leave, but I can't yet - there are other benefits I don't wanna lose until I'm ready. How to survive until then? I've never been good with expressing my anger. I just build it up, until I can't anymore.
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Channel it two ways: (1) searching for other positions and (2) writing your resignation letter. Before I left my last company, I had written my resignation letter over a dozen times. It was stress management for me like journaling. By the time I was ready to submit it, I was less angry and my 2-page letter had become reduced to about 4 sentences lolol. I overcame my anger and resigned peacefully for a better opportunity.
Even if you have no intentions of submitting the resignation letter any time soon, the act of writing it while searching for other positions will bring you some comfort.
Channel it by leveling yourself and your resume up! I’m petty in situations like that so I’d look for ways to do malicious compliance, and/or a way to bring the company down. Upvoting what everyone else recommended. Do less is always a good mantra to remember. Quit quietly, do your job and nothing more and focus on ways to show the troll males power and control. It’s the only language they speak.
I was rightfully angry at my last job, and I see no problem with expressing it. These men who were making me angry had no problem undermining me and purposely trying to make me look bad. The only emotion men respect is anger, so why control it? They’d love to see you cry. That’s what they’re going for. They’re always surprised when a woman is angry, though,
Fellow angry lady here - my advice is to do everything you can to improve your mental state overall, long-term and short-term. Always get good sleep, keep up with an exercise routine, spend time outside, eat good food, meditate... Whatever works for you. Reducing your background stress levels will help you cope when things got you raging.
What has helped me a lot to channel my rage that I cannot express (for various practical reasons) onto the person(s) are:
Morning pages/Journaling- doing this FIRST thing in the morning really helps to ground me, I take out all the pent up frustration in writing. I am as vicious as I need to be :) Later in the day does not seem to help me as much, though
Taking clear steps, even baby ones to get out of my situation, and recording them everyday. You mentioned that you will leave eventually, so I would recommend writing out your plan and executing a little from all things you need to do to get out. For example, "today I made a list of all the different jobs I can apply to". Personally, I put it all in an excel sheet on which I track my progress. The point is, you need to feel that you are making progress away from your situation every day- it'll help with feelings of helplessness and despair.
It's not your fault that people are shitty. Please do not lose self esteem because other people are disrespecting you.
That having been said, its important to practice asserting your boundaries and stand up for yourself calmly whenever you can (I know, easier said than done!)
Sending lots of love your way, and wishing you all the best! You got this!
Also in a similar situation where I can’t quit for the benefits. Let me know what you learn please.
The fact that you are angry means that you are being treated in a way that you do not think you are worthy of that treatment. I understand you don’t like going home daily from your workplace knowing your boundaries are being crossed. Rightfully so. I recommend you to discuss your boundaries again and point out that their behaviour is giving you distress instead of experiencing a fulfilling work relationship and this time give them consequences if they think about crossing them again, for instance that you’ll be quitting your job. But be serious and stand your ground and accept before talking to them that they might disagree and don’t want to improve their relationship with you. If you don’t walk away of whoem or replace what is making you angry, than you can not fix the problem your body mind is experiencing. Your anger is there to alert you it needs change. So next time wanting to express your anger, know that just feeling that emotion is you already expressing it, if you wish to express it to them and you aren’t doing that than that means you are scared because you might be aware of some consequences that would endorse on you. So: What do you have to do to be angry and unbothered of peoples reactions? I would say building self confidence by gaining the belief that you aren’t always dependent on some adult and you can just go out and make other relationships that do benefit you and not giving you stress.