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Decentering men. I've hit my lowest point in the past few weeks, honestly men NEVER fail to dissapoint me or hurt me. I'm honestly done.

A month or so ago I was at this point, but i was too weak and I went back in contact with the men I've had contact with.

There was a time as a teenager I use to be a "pickme" I used to say men are easier to get along with, I only have male friends etcetera

Back then I was younger and "prettier" 16 or 17 yrs old. I guess so men were "nicer" to me and there mask was harder to drop

Now though. I'm a single mum and I was in a abusiverelationship for over 5 years that destroyed my health and affected how i look. Im only 23. Ive seen the worst side of men. Things i want to say, i cant. They are just cruel, evil, complicated and flip randomly.

Old is a nightmare. I mostly do old for entertainment and to solidify why i avoid a d hate men. Men will randomly ghost, block. They are complicated little princesses that want princess treatment and to be chased. Idk if it's relevant but most these men were african/black.

There's also another tactic I've noticed, they will slide in your dm asking "who are you?" Or "why are u in my quick add", "why u in my recommended" They think aggression and passive aggressive is attractive. I'm not stupid I knew they were using that to try start a conversation. I just leave them on opened. Instead pf defending myself.

There like a hivemind. It gets really old QUICK.

Another one of their tactics is if you kindly reject them (yes I have snapchat) and on there they are absolutely disgusting. They send unsolicited and then if you rejected them they ask for a photo of you because they want to "humble" you. Ive had multiple tell me I wanna see if your attractive enough to reject me. What the hell. Everyone has the right to reject somebody.

I've noticed with men you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. If your a pickme that's attractedto them or" obsessed" with them they'll humiliate you or laugh at you. If you have standards and ignore or reject them you are a evil bitch who is ugly. You can't win.

I've had men straight up insult me and then expect me to meet them. As soon as you are rude to me or insult me you can forget EVER meeting me in person.

I'm taking things a step.further, I want to remain indefinitely celibate and just remove non family related men from my life altogether. They drain my energy, happiness and health. It's not worth it.

Losing my s*x drive has been the biggest blessing because now I only see men good for one thing, money. That's it.

I have so much to say but this is my first post so this is enough.

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Ansa

Oct 21

I'm 35 and they get worse every year. Once your frontal lobe is fully developed and you are aware of their games they lose it.

Unknown member

Oct 21

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I definitely feel my pre frontal lobe has developed...this past year I started awakening. Infact having children and being a mother awakened me to the worst of society and patriachy. Men create nothing they just destroy. I just don't want their shallow "validation". Men are terrible regardless of a woman's age. I've just realised to always, always expect to be dissapointed by them. Never give them the benefit of the doubt ever. Unfortunately my mother even at 52 years old is a pick me bless her heart but she was raised in a different time without the internet like today. It's been difficult to try unlearn all the male centered conditioning I was raised with and always considering men and their feelings before my own. Men and pickmes represent death and destruction and women we represent life and creativity. Men need us , they feed of us. We don't need them. They are parasites and take and take and drain your life force and give nothing back compared to what they take. The only people women should love is our children and ourselves

Men are a endless pit , anything you put there disappears and is in vain. They don't appreciate anything and are ungrateful creatures. They disgust me.

Unknown member

Oct 21

Yes, any insult men throw at you or disagree with you to start an argument, is them just trying to trick you into a conversation. They will take female attention any way they can get it, even if you're screaming at them how vile they are. Negative attention from women is better than no attention from women in their minds.

Don't take anything they say seriously at all. Asking for pics to see if you're "hot enough to reject them" (if you've rejected them, why do they think you care enough to read anything else they have to say? Has that ever worked for them?) is them trying to get a picture to jerk off to.

I promise you, any insult that seems personalized they've said to at least 3 other women (assuming they were able to trick that many women into talking to them). It's not personal, they just hope you'll take it personal so you feel inferior to them.

Just treat men like the annoying, insignifanct flies they are--ignore them or swat them away if they fly too close to you and keep going about your day.

Ansa

Oct 21

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It's the same online. Incels calling women old and fat is a regular occurrence.

Unknown member

Oct 22

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"Annoying, insignificant flies ", I love that haha. Yes they are annoying. The most difficult part of being a woman is we can never just exist in peace without men bothering us, they constantly impose themselves and their opinions on us

FlameThrower

Oct 22

This just gave me awful memories of the year that I tried OLD like 8 years ago.

One dude faked that we were in a relationship for a couple weeks, used me to show off to his friends at his massive 30th bday party, then ghosted me shortly after. I think it was a plan from the beginning so he didn't look single at his party.

Another one met me for a date at a cute cafe and didn't eat... wtf? Our second date was a meal at a restaurant he worked at (he owned the bar portion) and he set up for the waitress (his friend) to make comments about the carbs I ordered. LMAO. I didn't give a shit about any snide comments from her, but he told me later he was testing me with that and I passed "because he works around so many hot girls and he needs a girl who can handle that".... never been more turned off in my life. He also brought me to meet his parents on our 3rd date (when I was told we were getting pizza), frankly so they would give him their brand new truck since they were moving to an island. He used me to look "normal" and "solid" to them, I guess. I told him very frankly we weren't gonna work out and moved on to another man. This guy was crying in my DMs, sobbing, sobbing in person when I told him. Like a big BALD baby. 🤣 Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Dudes on OLD are a special type of $hit. I stopped using it after a year. It became real clear to me real fast that it wasn't worth my time or efforts. I'm not here to debate anyone on it, either. It's shit and no man on there is taking it seriously. HVM don't need a catalogue of women to sift through. Men aren't looking for love on there. It's a nefarious playground for the worse types and they're using it to have access to women who wouldn't give them the time of day in real life and to have endless options to fuck with women's heads or to lie to them and get laid.

Ansa

Oct 22

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My HVM ex met his wife on OLD. We ended because the attraction was gone from my side. He treats her like gold. I do think HVM are on apps but like in real life they are very rare.

Unknown member

Oct 22

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Oh God!, there is so many horror stories from old including from myself. There's too many for me to say. Some men they are looking for a woman to triangulate other women, I've been used to make other women jealous and try to triangulate and get us to fight for him, I just remove myself from the equation those men disgust me

Not to mention majority of men old they have a GF , hence they just want a mental to stroke their ego. They want to talk for months but not meet. I'm nearly 100 percent certain every man that's "rejected me" or "lead me on" was cheating on their gf and blocked me so they wouldn't get caught or once they were caught. They just want a pen pal for a ego boost and to triangulate against their gf without you knowing

Men disgust me honestly

And the entitlement! They really think they are better than women they couldn't hold a flame to IRL. It just builds their entitlement because they are already delusional and believe they can have any woman and swiping endlessly on women online gives them the illusion they are the chooser.

One thing we know "men" are never ever satisfied. They always expect a woman atleast 5 levels above them, 2 levels? Not good enough. Even women better than them are not good enough, they want their fantasy. What they consider perfect in their eyes. Men will reject women they perceive (I say percieve because it's not reality and only through their scrote eyes) women as below them or equal to them is not good enough, they must be several levels above. Male hypergamy is a real thing. They project.

Some pickmes are fighting for the chance to be a man's unpaid prostitute. What a honour.

I've met lv males in real life too. They are just trash all together but old builds their entitlement. They already have too much delusion,entitlement and confidence as it is.

Ansa

Oct 22

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Ugh yes the open triangulation is so vile.

Unknown member

Oct 22

They must just think that we should take their abuse and its no big deal. I guess they think we think disrespect is attractive.

I had one tell me when I said I'd like to have a long term relationship he told me "hard times now hun" referencing me being a mother and that I won't find a relationship. This is a male that i have not met or slept with. He was hinting at dating before and let his mask slip. Just before he was telling me he wants to meet me and he hopes I haven't "friend zoned him". This is one I've been talking to on and off for over a year but never met in person as he's a loser, lives with roommates at 30+ and has no licence. He has a fake "nice" act and was acting as a unpaid therapist to me. He also doesn't take care of his hair it looks matted in photos. He's atleast 10 years older than me and has 2 kids himself. His baby mother is 37. And a single mother yet he despises single mothers but creates them these men are the worst. Single fathers are absolute trash. 9 times out of ten the break up of the family is their fault. They are damaged.

Also the worst is older men in their 30s thinking they are in their prime and can do and expect casual hookup with younger women. They don't get they are below 20s men in looks. Stamina everything so should be expected to put commitment even more. What same woman would choose a 30s male over a 20s one for a hookup. Men in their 30s are used up and their even more likely have Ed, lower sex drive issues, aging, been drinking alcoholics for decades, probably have the most cancerous strains of hpv, more likely to have herpes and incurable stds, they are used goods. I don't like man whores who have slept with many women and the older they are the higher their number usually. And not to mention single fathers, yuck. Why would anyone choose a single father for a hook up anyway? I refuse to do hookups now a days but that is what scrotes expect. They think they are top tier.

Anyway I told him I don't appreciate being disrespected and since he feels comfortable disrespecting me , we won't EVER be meeting then I blocked him.

I've had losers actually ask me if I can give them petrol money to come to a date. They disgust me.

I've had losers expect me to travel to meet them.

I've had a loser more than once tell me he lost his licence and doesn't want to pay for a uber and asked me if I wait 3 months or 6 months to meet him.

I'm not paying and fighting to be your unpaid prostitute or to give you a orgasm you worthless scrote. They think they are the prize. Even gracing a scrote with my mere female presence let alone sleeping with them would be a honour and doing them a favour on my behalf. They get blocked immediately.

I had one tell me I live 40 mins away and that's just too far.

I've had one tell me that he gets laid easy as he has a big dck. This dude looks deformed his face. This is why pickmes are a disgrace and danger to women they pump up mens ego and expectations and make men think their bad behaviour is okay.

Negging also does not work on me, it turns me off. Everytime a male has something negative to say on my appearance I immediately lose attraction, trust in them. Negging has the opposite effect they intend, it turns me off and makes me view them as my enemy.

I disdain scrotes that can't even PRETEND to be kind. I know they werent capable of true kindness or empathy but they could atleast have the decency to pretend.

I wonder what other women or "pickmes" are tolerating to make men think thing behaviour will work in their favour

Unknown member

Oct 22

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They really think they are the prize 👸 I just call them a princess and block lol

Ansa

Oct 22

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The worst is that they call you out for not being "feminist". Like no, that's a word only women can give meaning to. There's no feminist men. Y'all don't decide who is and isn't. Get a proper job or piss off.

Unknown member

Oct 23

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The only acceptable feminism to men is liberal feminism. That says alot because it benefits them. I saw a comment somewhere i think youtube where a scrote said "atleast liberal feminists are fun".

Liberal feminism isn't true feminism because it benefits men. It's why even when you tell men you hate them they think it's a turn on at first because they assume your a liberal feminist that is sex obsessed and desperate for male attention.

Men don't know what to do when they meet a real feminist that despises men, I view men as my enemy as they've caused me so much harm and I even refuse to sleep with them or deal with them at all anymore. I view them as below and inferior to me because well, biologically in nature they are. And emotionally and in everyway they are below me. They don't know what to do with that. I guess because it brings them no benefits, no kinky sex, infact no sex at all, no ego boost, no validation.

Liberal feminism was created by men for men.

Unknown member

Oct 21

>There like a hivemind omg YESSS!

>I've had men straight up insult me and then expect me to meet them

same! we were talking about politics, who we were cosidering to vote for, etc. we had different opinions and he called me names and it was a very unpleasant interaction. then five minutes later he wanted to keep talking to me and invited me for dates. i simply ignored him and he pretended to not understand why. like, dude... you can't be THAT dumb! the audacity is unbelievable.

>Losing my s*x drive has been the biggest blessing because now I only see men good for one thing, money. That's it.

i don't even count on their money. they are too greedy and selfish to want to spend their money with good quality dates. that being said, i also see my lack of sexual drive as a blessing. it's so peaceful and i can think clearly and see men for what they are.

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