Happy holidays everyone! I read a comment on here a while back that said something like "the goal of FDS is to get off of FDS", that to be a HVW is to no longer need refreshers on handbook principles. I feel like now, more than ever, one of my personal goals is to get offline as much as possible. Wh

My mother gave up everything to move to a foreign country with my dad, her career, social circle, her happiness. She was, and still is, deeply unhappy and my first bully. I grew up with the idea that love is conditional. She will make jabs at me all the time, calling fat, telling me I'll get fired

For real. I am committing myself to the following rules for a more peaceful and happy holiday season, and I suggest everyone does the same! • Do not give any gifts to men. Whether it be dates, family members, friends or co-workers. If you must, get something cheap and thoughtless. It's what they do

I am playing hookie from work and spending some time out in the woods away from civilization. The weather is beautiful and I am thankful to be living in a blue state. I come from one of those families who used to consider themselves democrats, but once Trump came along, they began worshipping him a

Decentering men. I've hit my lowest point in the past few weeks, honestly men NEVER fail to dissapoint me or hurt me. I'm honestly done. A month or so ago I was at this point, but i was too weak and I went back in contact with the men I've had contact with. There was a time as a teenager I use to

Every man who has tried to enter my life, whether for friendship or family, turns toxic. I avoid them as soon as they show undesirable behavior. My interactions with men are minimal, like brief exchanges at the store. I set boundaries that repel most undesirable people for starters, and my social an

I'm tired of dealing with therapists. They don't really help. I feel like therapy is just expensive gaslighting. Do you know any therapy alternatives to deal with feeling extremely behind in life, like I'll never ever make my material dreams come true and I'm basically a loser? For context: I'm 'o

Are you guys watching The Bear? In Season 3, Episode 10, there is a scene that deeply resonated with me. The main character, Carmy, has been dealing with PTSD, which was exacerbated by working with a narcissistic chef named Winger early in his career. We get a glimpse of their working relationship,

Ding dong, the witch is dead. And I haven't missed her once. I knew I wouldn't. She saw to that when she shattered my heart countless times growing up. There just wasn't anything left to grieve her. The relief is palpable. I've waited 30 years for this glorious moment, and now I'm free. I never

I've been taking a break from all social media aside from the occasional check-in since the first week of January. I've also been limiting the access men have to me, except for the male family members I love and trust and the occasional dude at work I can't avoid because I felt this coming on and th

Covid (in my location) was 2020-2021 mainly… maybe early 2022 we can add if we want to be generous with the timeline but It’s 2024 and some therapists are still only doing telehealth. I understand that’s their choice but gosh it sucks because the options are so few now! I understand working from

Facts! This from Dr Thema, liberation psychologist is what we all need. Her daily wisdom has saved me and helped me move beyond my own trauma and limiting beliefs as a woman. I also feel like after dealing with so many lvm, many of us need therapy to return to ourselves and recover from the men

A partner should be an addition to your life, and should not be used as a solution to a problem. To be in actual, healthy and HV relationship you need to already be "complete". True companionship thrives on genuine connection and shared values rather than serving as a mere antidote to solitude. If y

I would.  I’d be even more inclined to believe her if she posted here than on social media because this forum is anonymous.  What would she have to gain by lying about her experiences here?  If a woman posts on this forum about a traumatic experience, I would assume she is reaching out for support.

I spend mostly every Holiday alone since I come from a narcissistic abusive family and went no contact with all of them except one cousin. Here is the lovely retro Style tree I decorated for this year. I'm so proud since normally I don't have the motivation to even put up a nice tree, but this year

Subhash had left behind a 24-page note where he had narrated his ordeal and had also posted an 81-minute video with a board on his neck that had ‘Justice is Due’ written on it, the police said. He had also alleged that a family court judge in Uttar Pradesh favouring his in-laws had been charged with

Dear Queens, My favorite YouYuber has been banned from YouTube for inexplicable reasons. The notice says it is a community rules violation but I am suspecting that she was succeeding too well as a female creator of color. She does incredible subliminals and rampages that have improved people’s liv

I really don't know what I'd do without fds, I've been treated so terribly by men, abused, negged, mindgames. They send me insane and have almost completely destroyed me mentally. Fds counteracts all my conditioning and the way I've been treated and my feeling I have had so many times feeling worth

I feel like a late bloomer because I only realized this when I was about 31-32. How did this realization impact the way you interact with men? What memories with men do you have that make you cringe at how naive you were?

I am kind of worried about making this kind of thread. On Reddit and Quora, a woman who finds it difficult to be friends with another woman who is way more attractive than them, can be demonized for "insecurity." There is someone in real life who I otherwise might have been able to be good friends

I am currently reading Not Nice by Dr. Aziz Gazipura. It has been an eye-opening journey, and I can relate to many of the passages. I grew up with an alcoholic father, and no one in my family ever talked about his battle with addiction or how it affected our household. Although he was not physically

I’m thinking of getting my tubes tied. I know I don’t want children at all and with the overturn of Roe v wade in the US, discussions about overturning it in Canada have been happening and my best bet to protect myself is to get my tubes tied. Has anyone had any experience with this in Canada? I’m

 I’m currently in Spain and I was applying to extend my visa and I really thought I was going to get it based on the information I read. However now I got rejected and I have 72 hours to leave Spain🥹. I have to be in London at the end of May but from now until end of May I have NO idea what to do.

This place has absolutely become a joke. There is little to no moderation. Half of the time, this place is drilled with posts about scrotes, rather than leveling up content. At this point, I'm honestly convinced this website is run by men with some of the opinions on here. The hypocrisy on here is

Buckle up for a long (rambly) read. TL;DR - I realize my buds don't really give a shit about me, only what I can do for them. Elle Woods montage began. For years I have volunteered to help manage my building and pretty much my entire circle consists of these people at this point. We've grown clos

UPDATE: he was cheating ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ TLDR imposter syndrome in experiencing healthy dynamics for the first time I don't really know how to talk about this or to who. Does anyone who is partnered ever feel this way? I can't tell if I'm someone who genuinely prefers being single or if I'm just uncom

Work is busy yet boring today (trainings), so good a time for this as any. Also I’m in a very happily fuck-it mood. FDS used to be about strength, wisdom, self respect and dignity. Half the people here seem severely lacking on those fronts. If that’s how you feel you need to interact around men,

Hi sisters, So I recently logged into Instagram for the first time in ages. I spiralled a bit and ending up looking at pages of instagram models. It was the the more local ones to me, who have followers in the thousands (not millions). I felt terribly inferior. Their lifestyles appear so lavish: