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A guy who has followed me on social media for a long time (I do not follow him back and his account is private, so I can't see it) has been creeping on me for years. I never got around to blocking him; my messages are filtered so they weren't in my primary inbox, and I essentially brushed him off and ignored his messages.
Over the past year or so, the messages got more persistent. He asked me on many occasions if I was planning to make an Onlyfans and kept saying this like "please make an onlyfans" or "let me know if you decide to sell sexy content, I'm eagerly waiting for it." He must have sent these types of messages about 10 times over the past year or so. I never replied to a single one.
Today at work (I'm a bartender) the guy and his wife, who I had no idea existed, walk in. Aside from living in the same town like 10 years ago, I barely know him and never thought I'd see him in person again. He looked equally shocked and concerned upon seeing me. He is catching up with some guy at the bar and the wife starts talking about how they've been married for three years and have a one year old kid now. I am so sad in this moment hearing this. It was clear to me the poor woman has no clue.
Should I reach out online and tell his wife? I have screenshots of the messages. If he had just sent one or two creepy messages that would be one thing, but to consistently send this shit throughout his marriage and her pregnancy is outrageous to me.
Only thing is I hate interefering when a kid is involved. Ugh
I always believe in telling the wife anonymously.
Create a burner account. Message her. Say something like "your husband is a creep, check his phone". Make the account look like it could be, say, a male co-worker or something--this will keep the suspicion off you.
Then when she snoops his phone, she'll find the evidence, but the tip-off didn't come from you.
If he's been doing this with you for over a year, there's a great chance he does it with other women too, and that his wife already knows, or at least has a hunch. I wouldn't be surprised if she is letting him have an oPeN rElAtIoNsHiP because his needs weren't being met after her body changed from pregnancy and they had a kid. Of course, this is major speculation, but still nothing out of the ordinary.
If you can, tell her, but be aware that he might come back to your workplace to threaten you or worse. Your own safety comes first.
yes, she should have all the information she can so she can make an informed decision about whether she stays or not. Its what we all would want even if it sucks
You should tell her, yes, but be prepared: his wife might not leave him even after she confirms that you're telling the truth. There's also a possibility that she's well aware of her husband's behavior but decides to turn a blind eye. Do it but don't have high expectations.
YES. Fuck these POS
It's either gonna be you or somebody else telling the woman her husband's a cheating bastard within the next decade. You should just gently give the relationship the deathblow it needs now before it goes on forward like a zombie, hurting everybody, especially the poor woman and her child, the most. But like other people said before me said, play it smart, slowly, and carefully.