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This is my quote, and while it may sound ugly, it's the cold reality of what happens when you split the bill with an LVM.
This does not imply we are prostitutes, that our sexual services can be bought for a monetary price. This does imply that we should vet ruthlessly to avoid LVM seeking to provide minimal investment in exchange for easy sex.
In my experience, many men in the U.S. expect sex within the first three dates. In their minds, if they show up to the date, allow the woman to pay her portion of the bill, and convince her to give them oral sex (or any type of sex), then they have won their little game.
So whenever you feel tempted or pressured to pull out your wallet on a date, repeat this in your head:
"A man who expects you to pay for your portion of the date is worse than the smegma he expects you to swallow for free."
Men don't go 50/50 with other things only their wallet needs to be split. You are doing 150% and If he's a broke loser then it's 200% for you. Yeet those scrotes from your life.
And also remember that if he was out with his buddies, he would (most likely) not even hesitate to pick up the tab.
Similarly if he was out with his dream chick (think: Angelina Jolie), he would never in a million years expect her to pay even one penny.
Truth! I recently had a convo with my current boyfriend (3 + years) regarding my dissatisfaction in our relationship around us not having any quality time together. He does "his things" which involve hunting, fishing, and sitting on the couch watching tv. And I do "my things" which until mid 2024 (May/June) I wasn't spending any time on my hobbies and hardly no time with my family and friends. Last year - and before I found this glorious platform FDS - I had a realization that life is too short spending it being unfilled and not serving my best support and enjoying my family and friends to the fullest extent. I have since then, been making it a priority to spend my time doing what makes me happy. Of course, this has rufffled a few feathers - which is the reason our entire "convo" finally took place because my boyfriend approached me and said "something is off, something is different between us - what is going on?".
I proceeded to tell him what is different/what is going on - none of his "interests" include me nor are they appealing to me. On top of this, during the entire three years of our relationship - he has always loved to brag about all the places he traveled, cabins, motorcycle rides, restaurants, bars, etc. he frequented in his past life. So, during our "convo" I made sure to tell him I am just confused why he used to be interested in other things (seemingly, unless he is lieing??). And I need/want quality time together outside of our living together (I know, another issue I need to resolve!). But he never suggests or asks me to do anything or go anywhere. And during our convo I asked him about this - and literally had the audacity to tell me he never went anywhere or did anything previously to our relationship (as far as entertainment, travel, restaurants, etc.) so he just has no idea where to take me or what to do. And, he's lived in the same location his entire life - many decades.
Okay ladies - hit me with your best shots here. And, for background - I just found this site a few months ago. And I wish I would have found it years ago!