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I wondering, and I hope some if you Queens out there can help me understand this. Why would guys want to waste so much time of their day, texting, facetime etc, but dont want to meet? What is the purpose?
And yes. they feel entitled to my time. But what do they get out of it?
Luckily I dont do that no more. I honestly dont have that much to say over text. But I am looking back, and seeing how much time I wasted on intense and fun texting, while they were of course never going to meet me, and was happy continuing that text-relation. Btw, I have face-timed some of them, so not cat-fishes.
And at last, I want to light a candle for all the time I lost for this bullshit. R.I.P - my precious time. 😢
Constant texting creates a false sense of intimacy. They will then leverage that fake intimacy to boost their own ego via several ways. 1. Sexting. Personalized porn, like an OnlyFans that they don’t have to pay a monthly fee for. 2. ward off their own loneliness while they continue to search for the woman of their dreams whom will give them enough motivation to wash their dicks, put on clean pants, and leave the house. 3. A ‘safe’ outlet of their insecurities while they attempt to date a woman they are attempting (but failing) to respect. 4. Create a longing in their victim so she will run through fire to come over to their house the second their dick gets hard, give him a blowie, then be gone by the time his real gf or friends gets back. 5. Market Research on ‘what women want’ and/or trauma dumping outlet that he does not have the maturity to deal with on his own or has the emotional intelligence to approach his male friends with. 5.a. highly likely that he has not invested in any male friendships…..he does not have the emotional intelligence or ability to think without his dick long enough to develop friendships with any other males at all, now or ever. He will continue to foster female only friendships with a weird sexual tension.
They think to themselves, "That's one vagina that I could have if I wanted it." Most men are very boring. They live boring lives of pushing paper at work, so they have a lot of energy leftover to get into fuckery during and after work. They use women as entertainment since they're not out hunting and providing for a family. They're sitting on their arses all day doing fuck all. When men don't have to hunt and physically work, they take that extra energy to hunt women. They make sure to keep a few on the backburmer in case they lose #1 vag in the lineup.
It's easy and they don't have to put on their jeans or open up their wallets to date women in all reality if they can just have a fake relationship with you over text. It's pure laziness and entitlement, plain and simple.
And this may sting a bit, but I've also learned that men also text a woman just to get free emotional labor, therapy sessions, and to 'practice' on her so that he can acquire new skills to then use on a woman he actually wants. It sucks but that's scrotes for ya.
Men get primarily positive energy and validation from women. Very few women engage in red pill behavior (like negging and manipulation for sex) so interacting with women is pleasurable for them.
Unlike for us, It’s not work until they have to open their wallets. This is why women are wise to not believe a single thing a man says until he has financially invested in her. (And not even after that.)
also, high volumes of men lack empathy so they don’t see anything wrong with wasting women’s time or using her as a placeholder. And most love the idea of being a placeholder themselves for a sex only relationship.
Also, men love to brag about their roster- even if it’s imaginary.
Ego boost. ("I can get girls to talk to me.")
Feminine energy fill. Men crave it because so often, masculine energy is toxic. :)
Some texting is fine. But beware "textationships" where the only time a guy wants to give you any attention or energy is in texting. He's not actually that motivated to be with or around you. It's the lowest-hanging fruit of communication and he'll go for it when he's not motivated. It's also why these guys go for dating apps - low effort with a potential reward of sex with some naive girl.
I've had the same experiences as you - especially this year, right before I discovered FDS - a scrote was very happy texting me all day every day, yet chronically unable to meet me despite living in the same city.
As for the reasons - I'd say laziness must be one, for sure. BUT, I see something else there too - a virtual, non-physical woman, is always more satisfying to a scrote than a real one. They already prefer their fantasy of women to the ones that exist in flesh and will want to squeeze existing females into what their fantasies are (e.g. by coercive control). Just texting with a woman lets them imagine her, so they may get a feeling their fantasies have come alive.
Sometimes men think they are not getting enough attention from their wife/girlfriend and they go to other sources. Men can compartmentalize this as not cheating and they are justified as doing so.
Ahh man, I had a few of these last year. The ‘hustling’ entrepreneur who spun a yarn about flying me over to him (but didn’t); the 6ft artist who was happy to text every day for a fortnight but balked at meeting. The maths teacher who kept me dangling for FAR longer than I realised as a bout of covid clouded my judgement. He later contacted me to find out why I’d cut him off and told me he was scared of meeting someone he might like. Stupid AND insincere. I think the other answers are on point. My own view is that it’s a pastime for these scrotes; they feel entitled to your time but don’t want to invest anything physical (money, presence, time) in taking your connection beyond texting. Texting gives them sufficient female attention and their wallets are untouched. If a man hasn’t made an attempt to organise a date within a fortnight I cut him loose.
I always think, if he just wants to text, he's got a gf or wife... Why else would he not want to meet up irl?
Because female attention is currency to the majority of males. They’re keeping you on the back burner in case they ever want a free therapist or a chance at free pu**y. I fell for this a couple of times too while I was actively dating, too!
Yes. Because most men are quivering cowards and there’s no risk of rejection from women or being confronted by their own unlovable-ness if they keep all interactions with women online and away from the real world.