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It was a beautiful day in Vegas. I was at the pool of a 5 star hotel, soaking up the sun. Suddenly a scrote approached.
“Hey, can I take a picture of you? I’m with a bachelor’s party and we’re on a scavenger hunt. We’re supposed to find a girl with really fake boobs.”
This wasn’t how I’d imagined having fake boobs would be. In my mind, they would be a solution to the problem that had been plaguing me since pre-adolescence, when all of my friends started sprouting but left me behind. For so long, I’d felt like a sorry excuse for a woman- like I just couldn’t measure up… literally.
My first boyfriend, Andy, was obsessed with getting me breast implants. “That’s all you need to bump you up to a 10,” he’d say. Sometimes we’d be having sex and he’d put his hands above my breasts as if he was imagining having more to grab onto. Andy came with me to my consultation. “What size breasts would you like?” The surgeon asked. Andy and I both answered at once. “B’s,” I replied, while he excitedly stated “D’s”. The surgeon insisted that I’d be unhappy with B’s- that most of his clients who choose that size end up coming in for a larger cup later on. We settled on C’s.
But something happened on the operating table, something I’ll never understand. Did he overinflate them by accident? They were saline implants, after all. Or did he decide to give Andy what he was asking for, since he was the one paying? At any rate, I ended up with D cups.
On my small frame, they truly looked ridiculous. And people seemed to enjoy pointing them out. I became very familiar with a particular line, and what it intended: “Hey- can I ask you a question?” This line was almost always followed with “Are your breasts real?” It was a loaded question, as it was obvious that they weren’t. I think they were secretly hoping I would say they were so they could laugh at the absurdity of the lie. Total strangers asked me this regularly.
When I finally got the nerve to break up with Andy, he told me he was going to get a lawyer to enforce the contract I’d signed, which said I would pay him back for the implants if I left. The contract had legit been written in green colored marker. I told him the hospital bill he’d incurred by physically abusing me was twice the cost of the implants, and asked that we call it even.
I had the implants removed and tried to learn to love myself, deflated bags of flesh hanging from my chest and all. But after a year I caved and got the B’s I always wanted. The surgeon did a great job and they look very natural. I still dress modestly, though. I never want to be seen as just a pair of breasts again.
I write this because it was eye-opening for me. Our society seems to think it’s perfectly okay to shame women with awful plastic surgery, because “they did this to themselves”. But many of these women just wanted to be left alone. They thought surgery would fix what they were already getting made fun of. Making fun of them for the surgery is just adding insult to injury. Many of these women are also deep in pickme hazes, and are likely being abused by scrotes.
If you see a woman with awful plastic surgery, please be kind.
Thanks all. I also think it is important to add that after I got the breast implants, Andy switched the goal posts and started talking about how beautiful girls with natural breasts are. Which just goes to show scrotes are impossible to please.
Honestly fuck that Andy and fuck the plastic surgeon! How dare the plastic surgeon do something else? Ofc he listened to the dude and not the actual patient, even if your ex bf was the one paying. Urgh the fact that the surgeon wanted to please your bf but didn't care about you at all is sickening.
You did the best you could ♥️ Fuck those people.
Society approves only what is 'natural beauty' which is such a controversial and bizzare thing to do. If it is obvious that you worked hard to maximize your looks, you are inevitably judged/looked down or considered to be less attractive. Instead of having more respect for someone dedicated to keep themselves fit, groomed and well dressed somehow it is 'VaNiTY'. Yeah, lies. Men can go their own way with their 'au naturale' since every single woman knows how hard it is to maintain our beauty let aside looksmaxxing.
Love this thread. I'm so angry that you dated such a fucking asshole. And he physically abused you too, on top of that? Naw, off with his 🍆.
I'd give anything to be a cup B or a C. At D or DD depending on the bra and brand, it really isn't the flex as a lot of women think it is. A lot of tops make me look either very frumpy, or hypersexualized. It has a tendency to make you look.. well.. "fatter" than you really are, I think. I just hate how it looks on me so much.
I'm glad you got the more modest B's of your dreams!
Thank you for sharing.
I’m so sorry for your experience! So awful!! It wouldn’t surprise me if this ‘Andy’ slipped the surgeon some extra wad to up the size!!! It wouldn’t surprise me honestly! My ex once told a doctor (whilst he was stitching my vagina) to give me extra stitches for tightness after I’d just gave birth. The doctor actually rolled his eyes as he probably gets asked that a lot I assumed. So glad your out of there! x
I’ve seen this on botched many times. It’s better to have small boobs if they’re going to pull GBH .
I’m so sad that you endured all that, and so happy you now have the body and confidence you deserve. People can be so awful and casually misogynistic. Misogyny is so ingrained in our collective psyche most people don’t even realize where their disdain or mockery stems from. Women are included in this critique as well. I can’t believe people were cruel enough to attempt to ridicule you. Actually I can. People are often giddy at the thought of taking women down a peg, especially if the woman is regarded as an uppity bitch or low hanging fruit.
That dr should be sued into oblivion, but I understand why you didn’t. Truly.
Your story brought a past observation to mind. I’m a…connoisseur of reality tv (lol). I'm fascinated by human behavior, and intrigued by the cultural factors that influence these behaviors. On the Real Housewives of Miami which I recently started, in very old seasons, there was an elderly woman who had a very botched facelift. It could not be corrected and she'd had to live like that until she passed. But what I noticed especially, was how Andy Cohen (host/producer) treated her with so much reverence and respect, like an esteemed matriarch and hung on to her every word. Even made sure to highlight her story.
Women often internalize their suffering, and this often leads to low self esteem. There's also a misconception that self esteem is static, but that's simply not true and also unrealistic. Self esteem ebbs and flows with the vagaries of life, although one must establish baseline standards for themselves which they abide by regardless of how terrible they feel inside. But of course that is easier said than done. I'm so happy you had a happy ending.
Thank you for this. Honestly I hate the look of bbls and wonder why anyone would ever do such a thing to their body especially when it's so dangerous. Good to be reminded there might be other reasons for doing so.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. It has made a difference.