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Lately I've been seeing these social media posts by women wherein they're romanticizing the idea that they're "The One Who Got Away" in their ex's mind. Like this is a very special One to be. Blah blah Yellow cab theory/ "he texted me from his wedding reception with the next girl saying he missed me!" 😵💫 or whatever.
Nah, sis. The real flex? It's actually feeling the upset feels for awhile because you're human! Then moving on to CENTER YOURSELF. Then it's you having long since blocked and deleted him. It's you not looking at his social media. It's you eventually being legit uninterested in your mutuals ever trying to tell you what he's been up to because you didn't ask them for an update.
If he's an ex, it shouldn't matter WTF he's doing or who he's with. What matters is YOU! Like the late great Mary Oliver asks: what are you going to do with your one precious life? Start there.
It's pretty narcissistic to conceptualize yourself like this. There are way healthier things to think about regarding the way you are moving through this world than 'I'm so special I'm the one who got away'. It's still centering men's image of you and holding it as important and using it as a way to flex over other women.
The only way your the one who got away…. Is if you ACTUALLY GOT AWAY and have blocked all of his access routes to you! Block. Delete. Repeat.
If you were that special to him, he would have made sure he kept you.