You have nothing to PROVE to ANYONE.

The original movement of feminism was -- simply put -- women rebelling against their VERY inhumane treatment. Women were treated worse than animal and dirt once upon a time you know.

And as the economy stabilized and business realize "sh*t, we need women too", we gained the power and finally owned our own money, so feminism movement finally had what they need to spread.

But of course patriarchy won't just let us be -- because they always, always want us to be men's chained slave for life, remember?

So they use a new tactic -- "So they want equality? Well then they have to prove themselves!"

And fast forward to the current LibFem era, and you have women bending over themselves trying to prove that they are worthy of a man's attention.

"Oh it is just the culture where I live"

Once upon a time, 30, 40 years ago, that "culture" didn't exist. It was started by someone.

Who did you think started it? What's his intention behind starting that "culture"? Was he thinking about your benefit when starting that "culture"?

And why in the damn bloody hell is that "culture" translate into you giving your money, time, energy, attention -- every single damn bloody thing of yours -- to SERVICE and PLEASE that man?

So that he can half-assedly saying "Yeah of course I love you babe" while his hands continue playing the game console?

While you continue to work, work and work to make sure everything is comfortable and taken care off -- because you "love" him.

Why does it always, always have to be [YOU]???

I get it, you are CONVINCED that you have "nothing worthy that will attract him" so you settle for constantly trying to prove yourself and settle for the barest of minimum.

To that I question -- why beg? Who is he that he has so much power over you? What's so special about him that you run yourself ragged to the brink of insanity just to get crumbs of his attention? Even if he is the handsomest man on earth and can pick from anyone blah blah blah;

Why do you have to destroy yourself trying to "win" him? What did you get in the end?

You know already he ain't gonna "love" you like you imagine -- gonna treat you like a doormat at best, and slave at worst.

So why are you constantly trying to prove to him how "worthy" you are -- unlike those other women??

You can twist up your argument like a pretzel being baked all you want -- but deep down you know you are trying to desperately prove to him that you are "worthy" for him.

Why?

Because you are convinced that if he finds you "worthy" -- you will magically find yourself worthy.

Who told you that growing up?

The tv, the people, the family, the society -- THE WHOLE SYSTEM.

Because a woman who deeply knows her own worth and has no desire begging a man to take her in and willingly serve him is a THREAT TO THE SYSTEM.

Patriarchy doesn't like it when you peacefully sat there and watch the man scramble to impress you -- that hurts their fragile ego and their poor butthole like no other.

So they will continue tell you that it is "empowerment" and "equality" when you pay your half of the dinner and became the breadwinner of the family and chase after that man.

Stop and think -- really ponder about it -- all these things you do to win that man, who does it benefit?

Sure, you get to "have what I want, what I really really want" -- and what comes after that?

Does he magically turn into the man who loves you and spoils you and always up to please you -- ya know, like the LIE you believe so deeply growing up, because you have "proven your worth" to him;

Or are you slowly exhausting yourself keep chasing after a man who can't even stand looking at your face for more than 5 minutes?

If you don't want to believe me than go on, go chase -- see for yourself. You are big enough to learn life on your own term, I am just sharing what I've learned and observed.

You have nothing to PROVE to ANYONE.

Whatever you capabilities are and whatever special about you -- it is all for [YOURSELF].

You learn stuff so that your life can get easier, not because you can impress that man and those people who are just out to use you for their own benefit.

They aren't impressed, sis -- they are just praising you and kissing your a** so that you can fall for their trap later.

Of course he loves that you are "independent, strong and has her own money -- unlike those other girls" -- that means he can't wait to use your money to buy his sh*t and use his money for whatever else bullsh*t he has planned.

Decent people and decent men don't need you to blab about your worthiness -- you can talk about the absolute mundane of things and they are still excited to talk with you -- no a** kissing and over the top praises needed.

Because decent people treat each other decently, genuinely, and sincerely -- no over the top performance needed.

I observed fake people rolled their eyes and zone out whenever I try to talk about mundane things -- only focusing on the big, bombastic, pompous achievements. That's not how decent people behave.

So, if a man is only keen about your "worthiness" and you find yourself having to keep proving your worthiness to him -- otherwise he starts treating you coldly and say you are "boring"?

WALK. THE. F**K. AWAY.

That's not someone worth destroying yourself over.

Focus on yourself and start looking deep down -- you will be surprised with what lying dormant gathering dust because you grew up busy chasing after lies and external validation.

Stay safe, Stay WOMAN.