What does it mean to "Level Up".

It is getting out of hand.

People hear the word "Level Up" and proceed to tell you to do everything but level up.

Dress this way, look that way, have this thing, do that thing, talk this way, walk that way, don't do this, act like that, speak like this, and blah and blah and blah.

Those are NOT "levelling up".

Those are styling up, those are adopting healthier habits, those are trying a different way to live life, sure -- but those are NOT "levelling up".

You are not "Levelling Up" if your goal is getting attention and recognition of others.

You are not "Levelling Up" if your focus is on how people will view you and how positive your public portrayals will be.

You are not "Levelling Up" -- because deep down inside, you still don't like yourself.

Women all across the globe are raised, brainwashed, groomed, made to deeply deeply believe that we are nothing, we have no value whatsoever unless other people see us.

Unless men see us and desire us.

So we grew up, consciously and/or subconsciously hating ourselves.

How? By not trusting our own judgement, by doubting our own decisions, by feeling insecure with our very own existence, by feeling the desperate need to know everything and do everything so that we are useful to others and thus, seen.

We put all of our value in being seen as useful and valuable to others. Our sense of worth depends on how others perceive us and make use of us.

All the while, we are never taught to like ourselves.

And no, it is not about the walk, or the confidence, or the way heads turn when you walk into the room;

It is simply, and humbly, the point where you sit down with [yourself] one day in solitude -- look back on the journey shaping the person you are today, and found yourself content and at ease.

You simply like yourself, and who you've become. You may still be struggling, you may still not in the career path you want, you may still have loads of worries, you may still do tons of silly mistakes;

But you like yourself. You really do.

And you do not need anybody else to share the sentiment -- they can like or hate you as they please, it is their freedom to do so;

But you like yourself.

You settled in your skin, you rest easy, you walk the earth with both feet solidly on the ground, you are no longer confused, and any mistakes mean you live and you learn.

It is what it is, life. And you will continue to walk your road with contentment and ease until the day you no longer have to.

That little girl with see you and wonder why are you so chill when there are so many things to worry about;

And you simply say, "Why worry? We will find a way."

In the absence of everyone and everything, outside of all your achievements and possessions, outside of your usefulness to the world, when there are just you and [yourself];

Are you at peace?

What does a "High Value" person looks like?

Easy, go look in the mirror -- that's how it looks like.

Levelling up is not about achieving a "Look". You can change your style, have fun dressing up, put on some makeup, do your hair and stuff;

But becoming "High Value" is not about "looking" a certain way.

Regardless of how many internet gurus telling you that looking "High Value" (aka looking rich and classy) will change your life or whatever.

Sure, you get more attention if you glam up -- but do you like yourself?

Are you content with who you are as a person?

In the absence of everyone and everything, are you at peace?

Or do you still need to rely on external validation, attention, and possessions to feel any semblance of worthiness?

Levelling up is not about looking outside and strategize on how to portray yourself better to the world;

It is about looking inside, directly at [yourself] that has been neglected for so long, and start learning to like yourself, little by little.

A High Value woman is simply a woman who like herself, content with herself, and is at peace with herself. Regardless of which stages in life she is in.

Levelling up does NOT mean becoming "perfect".

You may be still struggling,

You may still scraping by trying to have enough food on the table,

You may not get the results you want or failed the tests you worked so hard on,

You may be laid off and struggling to find a new job right now,

You may be older with bad teeth and not a shred of youthful beauty anymore,

You may be recently divorced or out of an abusive relationship and feeling incredibly behind in life,

Or you may have it all -- a good career, a good look, a good age, and still struggle with something not many people understand.

Remember, Levelling Up is not a "Look" -- it is about learning to like yourself, little by little.

Nothing can stop you from looking inside and learn about [yourself].

You can learn about yourself at any age, at any phase in life, with or without external success, and despite any past mistakes.

There are no rules and regulations to learning about [yourself], and learning to like yourself.

There is no competition, there is no deadline, there is no need to be the 'best';

There's just the [self] neglected for so long, waiting for you to pay attention to it.

But how??

First, let go.

People have mouth, they'll say stupid shit. Let go of that pain.

People will act this way and that, there's only so much you can do. Let go of that burden.

Problems will never ends. There will be new ones coming tomorrow anyway. Let go of that worry.

And let go of that tight guard you have on your usefulness. It is okay to be underestimated -- unless you get paid, they are just using you.

People will never see you the way you want to be seen -- so let them be. Quit stressing yourself, let them be.

Then, sit down.

Sit down, and look at [yourself].

Who are you? And do you like the person you have become?

Do you like yourself today?

You can get busy trying to be seen and chasing after their attention and validation;

Or you can get busy looking inside and start learning to like yourself, little by little.

Choose the option that will make you smile.

Do you like yourself today?

Stay Safe, STAY WOMAN.