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Is this a result of them going on Reddit a lot, where the worst men congregate to put women down? Or is it just how a lot of women actually feel?
I just saw a post on a women's sub, to paraphrase: "often at 30 it's difficult to have any optimism about the future. At this age you realise the die was cast at birth and there is not much you can do to shift the needle in either direction." Cue a bunch of women apparently upvoting this 'gritty realism'
Um, hello? Thirty is young! Why have these women given up hope and just decided to settle for their current life if they aren't happy? I cannot imagine many thirty year old men have this attitude. This is the type of self-fulfilling prophecy that will hold you back for no reason.
Sadly it does remind me of my mother and aunts: "well, this is my life, I'm not happy but whatchagonnado". Just really depressing stuff.
Men will settle for a woman they don't like and are resentful of if they can't land the woman they really want. That's because men aren't cut for independent life. They assume women are the same. Instead, if a woman can't find a man who can fulfill her needs, she prefers being on her own.
I think it's reddit because I see the opposite in real life. Women are thriving! Many are done with the online dating though and I don't blame them.
It's the exact same attitude that leads to women settling and staying in relationships with men they don't really like, except they're staying unhappily single. It's just the same attitude, different target.
Cultural attitude shifts are much harder to accomplish, and especially in internet echo chambers.
Given how much info is out there about how we can self-signal to our brains and set our attitudes up for success it's shocking more women aren't interested in shifting towards an abundance mentality.
Of course, they are more drawn to the social sympathy and compassion offered from the negative echo chambers- so they are more incentivized to stick with seeking comfort from a self inflicted negative thought pattern.
The whole 'validation' attitude towards people's feelings about their lives is TOXIC CRAP. Validation means nothing, emotions are temporary and they pass IF you let them go. No one in real life wants to make friends with someone who's a drag- literally that attitude can only flourish online.
While I don’t think femcels are the same as incels (in that femcels are reactionary, and have low self-esteem, while incels are lazy and entitled af), their echo-chamber forums tend to function in the same way. They isolate themselves into forums with other women who think the same way they do, and ban anyone who tries to talk them out of their negativity. It’s this weird persistence and determination to be miserable that goes against human nature. I think a lot of it has to do with reddit as a platform. It really is an online gathering place fir the worst of humanity.
People who are constantly online have very limited lives and consequently aren't mixing with many people. They need hobbies.
Also, it's a self-perpetuating cycle. Being on Reddit, reading the alarmist hype, reflecting and then reposting.
Stay off it. It will keep your head clear.
I haven't given up hope in any way, shape or form! I love my life, and if I were to continue being single until I die, I will be happy. If I find a great guy to share my life with, even better. And I do believe they're out there, rare as they may be.
Sounds like men LARPing as women lamenting the wall or some nonsense. That's Preddit for you.
I always thought they're talking about the state of the world and the decline into utter collapse and/or fascism due to men being shitheads, unsustainable overshoot, capitalism, and climate change. Shit's bleak. Of course it could be other stuff but in the places I've lurked, those are the primary stressors. At least, what I listed is what's stressing ME out. So maybe I'm projecting.
Christ no. Such a lie and a defeatist attitude.
My bestie started a nursing degree at around 30, retraining after being a fitness instructor for most of her 20s.
Now she’s a clinical nurse (high level) and her career is only getting better. She loves what she’s doing. We are nearly 40 now.
I feel like I didn’t really become myself again until I was in my 30s after experiencing CSA.
Life has only gotten better. My sense of self and my boundaries and zero fucks given have only solidified now.
It seems like you're trying to say that they would be happier if they just had an optimistic view on things even though when you're on FDS you already (or atleast should) understand that the situation is bleak. This is why the first step in leveling up is to decenter men and be okay with being alone (aka you can have the best friend group and an amazing family who cares for you, but if you're not sucking dick then you're "alone") and get a girl gang because there is legit more to life than being with a man. All I read from your post is that after having years of knowlege and experience women have this "it is what it is" and are moving on with their lives.
I'd say we have gender selective birth to avoid popping out more sons and just raise daughters instead of catering to men. High value men are dying not because of the so called media blaming masculina's but because ppl refuse to raise their sons into high value men.