So I‘ve been using fds since 6 months and I have gradually maxed my sucess in loving myself more and sticking to my standards. I know dating apps are frowned upon but I live 1 hour away from the next city so it‘s nearly impossible for me to meet people whom I not went to school with. So anyways I was on this app texting with a guy using the fds like showing always a little less effort than he gives, never trying to hold a conversation yada yada. And after like 5 exchanges and me making a witty joke about linking breakfast preferences to a personality evaluation I swear to god he exploded. Like out of nowhere he told me I seemed like an arrogant person who is way too complicated for him and overall too difficult to deal with. And guys you would not believe it I was so happy reading that. Because my former pick me self never got such a reaction from a man because I always tried to be nice and accommodating, keeping the conversation afloat, and overall trying my best not to anger any man or making him look inferior to me. So after that small wave of happieness, because I finally kept up boundaries and was a ruthless assertive woman instead of a doormat I just texted him I completely agree with him and that it seems like he is a very emotionally well balanced person and best of luck. I know I have a lot to learn and the fds approach would have been to block and delete and not bother with an answer, but I just had to do something with my new found power and it felt very satisfying to put him in his place. I mean it was a dating app and we had very few exchanges. If he was a normal person he could‘ve just not text me back or unmatch me if he felt I‘m the wrong person, but he deliberately chose to tell me exactly whats wrong with me and tried to put me down and I was having none of it. I‘m so proud of myself even if I still have a long way to go
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Reminds me of a coworker I talked to (I know rule #1 do not start a work relationship). Luckily it never escalated to a relationship, but he began acting very over emotional and would raise his voice at me. He approached me today after realizing I had blocked him, and he was PISSED 🤣. He thought he could continue to yell at me and talk nonsense and I wasn’t gonna block his A** ! You thought you got the right one, but you got the WRONG ONE ☝🏽. I tend to be very calm and because of my calm men feel like they can “dominate” me, and for the first time, I told his behind that I didn’t wanna be with him anymore and he could gladly leave me alone. I realized he was angry because I cut him off COLD, and he was anticipating for me to do that, because he thought I wasn’t the type the type to set boundaries lmaoooooo
Please be careful and don't give your real number to these guys. I've had guys blow up my phone, they can reverse lookup to find your address.
I know we're trying to get away from screenshots, but I would kind of like to see this text conversation. It sounds highly amusing.
Good for you, OP!