My Victories 8 mos. Post Breakup from LVM Posing as HVM

I'll post about this guy in detail later. I've been too busy chasing my dreams to do so yet but it will serve as a warning and lesson learned for other women.

Here's what I've accomplished 8 months after this breakup:

•Blocked and deleted him immediately after the breakup (after 9 months of dating);

•Processed the breakup, cried lots, then dried those tears;

•Saw the red flag parade toward the end of the relationship and vowed Never Again, and digested the major lessons (continued blocking his ass when he tried to reach me);

•Leveled up my nutritional goals and kitchen prowess (he insisted on ordering out for us constantly; I limit takeout or restaurant food to 3-4X/mo. now);

•Leveled up my fitness goals (practicing skills in classes I've signed up for, doubling down on gym strength training, and using fitness to bolster my mind-body connection while his Dad Bod barely worked out);

•Signed a book contract;

•Completed said book, which is in editing stage;

•Buried my beautiful cat, the love of my life, and grieved her passing;

•Switched industries and will now be able to make bank (back then I naively shared the salary rates with him and he was visibly upset; I'll be making much more than him and he can choke);

•Overhauled my professional materials to hit the job market running (this is a huge one with lots of stops and starts, but I no longer have him to deal with and can solely focus on this priority);

•Took 12 weeks of STEM courses in new field and soared;

•Ended at least 6-7 friendships, including a BFF (once I set boundaries for how I wish to be treated and who is in line with my evolution, it applied to my whole life);

•Went low-contact with my parents, and stuck to it (I was already low-contact with Narcissist Dad but after the breakup I realized how much my Enabler Mom's betrayal hurt more);

•Doubled down on therapy and trauma-informed therapeutic practices;

•Started laser hair removal for longterm comfort;

•Upgraded my home and coziness;

•Upgraded my wardrobe (not all the way there yet but I'm focused on saving until I land my coveted role);

•Read 4-5 books a month;

•Joined abuse survivors group therapy to address childhood trauma even more deeply;

•Spent massive amounts of time in solitude, reflection, & prayer;

•Meditated and journaled daily;

•Took myself on overseas and in-country retreats and vacations;

•Stayed purposefully single and refused to date via OLD or even men hitting on me in person (how I met him), and I limited the few male friendships I had;

•And much more.

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