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Not in terms of men ofc I don't really care what men think of me. But in terms of a person in general? I have a slew of mental health problems that has ended in me isolating myself and sometimes neglecting my own health and well-being..
Myself esteem is in the toilet and I've developed severe social anxiety. I do plan on getting therapy but I can't afford it yet. Am I low value because of these problems?
I have ADHD and it just makes glowing up very frustrating. I could use some pointers 😭.
Sometimes isolating yourself is the first step in rebuilding. If you have too many negative influences, then withdrawing and reflecting on your own without anyone whispering in your ear is already healthier than keeping the weeds in the garden.
Don't think of yourself as low-value. You are currently off the market for refurbishment. You're worth that investment in yourself, no matter how long it takes 😌 🙏.
Hi, you are not low value. People who are aware of areas in their life they could improve on for a better quality of life and plan on doing so are generally thoughtful and emotionally intelligent people. I too have ADHD and I understand how big the struggle is to achieve any kind of lasting financial success and routines that allow us to take care of ourselves/our environment. It also comes with a bunch of co-"morbidities (hate that word) which could be what you're expriencing when you refer to a slew of mental health problems. But I managed to scrape together enough for a formal diagnosis, all online, and have now been taking medication. While not a silver bullet it absolutely helps the dopamine issue which as you may know is lower in people with ADHD & linked motivation to do the tasks you need to do. And that in turn can hopefully help with earning the money to get proper therapy, but I must say theres so many great informative psychology resources on youtube, albeit not super personalized but better than nothing.
After a lifetime of messing things up and people judging you because of ADHD related issues, it's totally normal to have low self esteem but with improved routines and follow through via systems and medication, the self esteem naturally increases. And from there therapy can only help. My parents and partners have left deep scars from the things they've said to me, but after learning about this condition, I realize it's because they didn't understand me or try to. We are not LV, we just come equipped with a different set of tools we need to learn to use.
It's also good that you're not trying to date because statistically, women with ADHD have a much higher rate of ending up in an abusive relationships ( to say nothing of your average LV relationship) through both her low self esteem and her inability to meet gendered expectations like organization, cooking, cleaning, a ridiculously high level of grooming etc., all while being on time.
I watched this viedo last night and couldn't help but tear up because everything was so spot on and people rarely if ever have compassion for women with ADHD, we really get judged SO harshly compared to boys who are expected to be hyper, sloppy and disruptive. Maybe it will help you too.