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I've finally reached the point where I could afford renting a flat in a city on my own. I would love to try living alone while I'm in my twenties. However, I am foreseeing so many issues that are preventing me from taking the leap. I don't know any other women my age who live alone, so it seems scarier and like I'm making a decision that other people think is a bad idea.
I plan on a career change which will inevitably mean taking an initial pay cut and moving back in with roommates in a more expensive city. What if I can't bear living with roommates after experiencing living alone??
2. Living alone will cost me between £200-£400 extra per month. I'm a frugal person and this is making me feel guilty for not saving money when I could (even though I have been saving aggressively for the past three years). Plus we are in a cost of living crisis and it feels like throwing caution to the wind.
3. What if it gets lonely? I would be moving to a city where I don't know anyone, working from home (at least at first) and then staying in an empty flat. My support network is very limited right now and yet I am actually an extrovert who craves connection.
On the other hand, I am imagining the total freedom I will have, the money I will save on just being happy to relax at home and cook whenever and do whatever I actually bloody want. All the time I will have to study and work on my career. Plus living in a city, rather than the back of beyond where I currently live.
You will learn how you live alone and this will make you better at vetting for rommates that are compatible with your lifestyle.
Money comes, money goes. That amount is worth solitude.
I'm also an extrovert who lives alone. I learned that I don't want people in my space and I get my needs met by going out. I've become territorial lol. I also have a lot of pets but I don't recommend that for you since you'll have to live with roommates again.
I live alone. I relocated to a city where I knew no one. I love it here and met a few really nice women that I hang out with. I wish I made this decision sooner. I would recommend that you ensure your finances are in good order and try your back up plan now (go through the steps) - it's good to test it out before needing it. Have a list of restaurants and events you want to experience and join local groups. Try meeting women in your new building.
I get lonely every now and again but so do other women I know. I'd rather be lonely living my dream than resentful. Let us know how it goes!
I can't live with people so I don't understand this post. Knowing I have a safe space way from the cruelty of the outside world is invaluable. I've lived with many people, and it always ends horribly. Never again.
If you can live alone, do it. It is fucking great.
Take a leap, if it doesn’t work out you can always share-house again.
I loved living alone in my early twenties, it was fantastic. I built my own routines and enjoyed life.
i hated living with roommates in my twenties and thirties. i hate it now.
if i could make rent fly solo, i would!
You might already know women who live alone and not realize it.
When I lived alone, for safety reasons I didn't go around telling everyone. That was information reserved only for people I trust, people who care enough for my safety to keep this information private.
I would straight up lie and say I live with people if asked about it by someone I didn't know well.
From experience, I can tell you living alone is wonderful. If you go ahead with it, remember only people you trust should know you live alone. That is my #1 tip for living alone.
You won't know unless you try! Everyone should try living alone for a bit. It really helps to level up your self-reliance and built confidence. If this is your chance, and it really won't ruin you financially, I think you should do it.
I moved to a new city where I didnt know anyone and got my own 1-br apartment in my 20s. I love that apartment. I had basically no furnature (dont tell FDS, but I slept on an air mattress on the floor for a little while, lol). I'm an introvert-bordering on loner, but I made friends at work who lent me furnature and helped me find cheap stuff around town. It all worked out. I loved the freedom.
After about half a year, the job I moved there for ended and I got a job in another state, and moved in with a roommate. Idk about you, but I'm very adapatable. I prefer living alone, but I do well with roommates, too. So even though I loved my bachelorette pad, having a roommate again was nice. I enjoyed her company.