Do you want to stay in the "Victim" mindset?

Posts about "Use [insert] strategy and OBSERVE how the man acts, and make your own judgement".

"Oh but I am afraid if I do that, he will say the perfect thing and act the perfect way and I will be trapped forever till the day I die."

Posts about "Majority of men are lazy and rarely can keep their lies straight, don't be afraid ladies just OBSERVE AND VET carefully."

"OMG BUT WHAT ABOUT PSYCHOPATH SOCIOPATH JAMES BOND CIA LEVEL SUAVE MAN SUCCUBUS blah blah blah???"

Posts about "Stay secretive. Don't lead with personal vulnerable details or what you have/can do/wifey skills/how much money you make/career/utilities on dates -- that's the man's job. Stay relaxed and OBSERVE"

"Umm no, actually HVM will never want to be your caretaker -- he wants to know I am at his level blah blah blah -- how can he know me if I don't share every single little details about myself blah blah blah"

Posts about "You are IN CONTROL of yourself -- nobody else have control over you. Let him do his RESPONSIBILITIES while you relax and OBSERVE him."

"Umm no, I will never give him the reason to have power over me!"

"Oh yeah?? How about [insert violent oppression here] and [insert systematic criminal cases here] -- who is it control in that particular situation?? Huh?? Huhh???"

If you have followed me since my Reddit years, you know I won't debate people in the comments. I don't write to satisfy literally every single one of you -- I write what I want. If you disagree or want your very specific case to be included in the post -- find other post. Or write one yourself.

So when it comes to these type of reactions -- I have a question for y'all: SO NOW, WHAT?

You going to continue being afraid? Fear? Get anxious?

Getting defensive and won't allow yourself to relax at all in a relationship?

Continue to be deathly afraid of one day meeting that perfect Dexter James Bond-whatever man -- that you just... do what in the meantime?

You like to say men are dumb and beneath you -- but still act like they can turn you into a brainless, helpless puppet once you get within their eyesight. That once you date them -- you are absolutely and utterly helpless -- can't exercise any of the FDS block and delete, bathroom and ghost, divorce, just plain ol' disappearing act -- for whatever reason.

That letting them do things for you and pay for you somehow means a blue djinn appear out of nowhere and curse you to be the man's bounded slave for life.

You say they are dumb but you are so deathly afraid of them still.

It is all the same thing:

I can't, I can't, I can't.

It won't work, it won't work, it won't work.

Fear, fear, fear.

Helpless, helpless, helpless.

Victim, victim, victim.

Why do you spend time learning about levelling up skills, vetting skills, block and delete skills, exercising boundaries and all that -- if you don't want to put them into practice? If you don't have faith in yourself? If you don't trust your own ability? If you are still deathly afraid of that man?

Sorry-not-sorry to some of y'all ladies -- I write to provide solutions. And that does means giving yourself some Goddamn trust that you won't "mysteriously" lose your common sense and the ability to think once you sit down in front of that man.

Three dates in, three years in, three decades in -- you still have your thinking ability, don't you? You still have your common sense and sound judgement? You still can think how to solve a problem?

Than use it, ladies. FDS have the sources to help -- but at the end of the day, it is all you.

Stay safe.