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In the last two months, I've heard of men that I know of that have gotten into relationships with women that they clearly have no real interest in. The men seemed to want to be in relationships (clearly for the benefits they bring, the fact their friends are getting engaged and their mothers are pushing them to get married due to their ages) and entered into them with a woman they chose at random.
A lot of men do this - celebrity men and everyday men, poor men and rich men. Daniel Craig got married to Rachel Weisz despite knowing her for years and dating other women. Ryan Reynolds has said how he and Blake Lively were friends for a while until he "had some realisation" 🙄 that it would be a good idea to be with her. A family friend's son got engaged to a girl who he claims was always "the one" for him....despite knowing her for years and dating other women seriously, with one woman in particular that he struggled to get over after she ended things.
For anyone who feels hurt that it didn't work out with a guy and he's gone on to be with another woman, know this: a lot of men settle for any woman they can get. A lot of men are not with women that they like, respect or love. When they want to be in a relationship due to fear of being alone, men will pick literally any woman to be with.
If it seems that a guy is doing a lot for another woman when he didn't do the same for you, please know that he's doing what he can to keep her around after losing you. They also do this to avoid being honest with themselves about the fact that they are the ones with the terrible traits that drove you away so they compensate by doing the most for another woman who gets excited by his gifts and actions but is unaware that he's playing the "gentleman" role.
Remember this quote from Sex and the City:
Another reason why its important to be hard to attain.
A colleague of mine is a pick me 60 year old woman who teaches a men's support group, and she noted that every time these guys break up with a gf, within 2-3 weeks they've found another.
She's sooooo close to getting it. This woman said to me, "It doesn't seem like these guys even like the women they're with. They just move onto the next". So yeah.
I find this to be true with most men. It’s hard to hope that a good man will wait for the “right” woman to come along. I’m hoping that the person for me is waiting and doesn’t just choose whoever.
isn't it nice that now women can go about their careers until one day--boom--they hit the 6-figure mark and decide they want to unfreeze their eggs and have children? at least i wish this was more often the case. men can keep destroying themselves and their planet in the name of MOAR POWERRRRR. we'll just be over here flourishing.
Yes, it’s news to many women that men often marry or cohabit with women they do not actually love, respect, or even like, because women’s domestic and emotional labor is so beneficial to men. The best example of this is any given stepmother who gets hooked while the man was still legally married to his prior wife. In nearly every case, she’s doing his parenting for him, while having no legal rights to the children should they break up.
This recently happened to a friend of mine with 2 Ivy degrees and grown kids. A scrote conned her into being a Stepmom Appliance for his 3 young kids. She is trying for a shut up ring, and it's so sad to watch. He doesn't respect her at all, and openly flirts with any waitress in sight. It's very apparent why the mother of his children left him.
My ex who lived with his ex at the time (I know better now) had told me that he was involved with her “not out of love, lust or romance but NECESSITY”…according to her FB they’ve been married for 25 years!! 💔💔🤬💔🤬
You're generally right but it's probably not a good idea to try to get over rawness about an ex ostensibly moving on by just hoping he's treating his new partner like shit - seems vaguely misogynist or at the very least overly petty/bitter.