I thought I'd ask this on FDS since a lot of you have excellent advice for levelling up in life outside of dating as well so here goes. I am in a program and amidst my cohort there are only 2 other girls. The majority are men. However, my main source of distress lately has been due to one of these

Not in terms of men ofc I don't really care what men think of me. But in terms of a person in general? I have a slew of mental health problems that has ended in me isolating myself and sometimes neglecting my own health and well-being.. Myself esteem is in the toilet and I've developed severe socia

Here's an overview: I'm 25 years old. Didn't graduate college due to difficulties with authority figures, but fortunate enough to have an IT related job with below average salary. I plan to take a software development course online, but I don't have enough funds, so my next step is to do side hustle

Hello everyone, It's summer. It's hot. And I'm not trying to spend any money lol. Everything is too expensive and I refuse to spend $$$ to have summer fun. My local library has so many resources available I am in awe free museum tickets, resume builder, career advancement, art and crafts, zoom cl

I have been loving this channel! She does plenty of long-form style podcasts, going in-depth on her chosen topics. She does a great series on decentering men and the male mindset, and she has so much insight and knowledge. She's sort of on the vibe of Manifestelle, although her content is targeted t

I (25F) messed up with my friend (33F). How do I fix this? Should I even fix this? Reddit tells me no. But... that's Reddit lol. I value your opinions and thoughts. I believe I handled this situation immaturely in my opinion as a socially anxious person in her 20’s! I originally met her at church

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Hi Queens! I'm missing hearing FDS and radfem voices every Wedesnday and want your best podcast suggestions. Someone mentioned Redfem recently here and it's great, so I wanted to see what else my fellow FDSers are listening to!

The manosphere is all "go to the gym, f btches, get money". Yet women are also flocking to the gym now and make up fifty percent of all members. Do you think gym culture is benefiting women? Does the gym improve our self-discipline or motivation, or are we just falling victim to the male gaze again?

Hi ladies I have trouble with communicating my needs and I tend to people please even when it is inconvenient and damaging to myself. I am non confrontational. Still, I have this current situation in my life. I take vocal classes in my teacher's home. This is my third year with her. On her descrip

My therapist is a baby boomer and she told me to get a part-time job on a Saturday for half the day. I already work full-time. I like my therapist, but sometimes she can be out of touch. I told her I'd like to get a car eventually and want to start saving. Unfortunately, I do not make a lot, and I'm

ADHD FDSers. How has your ADHD affected your level up journey? Do you have any personal tips that help you? I feel motivated to level up again but I'm noticing my struggle with executive dysfunction is making things a bit troublesome. How do you cope?

I discovered the FDS website via an article on Medium about a week ago and I've been reading your posts ever since. I love what I'm seeing, even though, at 64, I'm old enough to be at least your mother and maybe even your grandmother in some cases! I love that this website exists. I wish it had exi

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We all know that childhood and teenage years are considered the most formative, and have a great impact on the trajectory of your life. However, I do feel that after age 25 until your early 30s, we seem to get this unique opportunity to really define our lives going forward. I feel that up until the

Queens, As most of you know by now, FDS is about optimising not just dating in a woman's life, but all areas, and 'living our best lives'. So, in what ways are YOU leveling up at the moment? And what do you hope to finish up as we move through the final weeks of 2024? For me my main focus at the

Though im not interested in males anymore after having to deal with a very traumatic experience, i am really glad this site exists that you all exist sometime ago i saw a woman having doubts about the male he was seeing and asked for advice , i absolutely loved the replies and how everyone gave her

Especially in a male-dominated space. I think these men are super bold with their rage because there's only men around them so they can all work together to be dicks. Basically I went to this new male dominated sports place alone and the guy on reception decided to hate me from two seconds in (I d

It is getting out of hand. People hear the word "Level Up" and proceed to tell you to do everything but level up. Dress this way, look that way, have this thing, do that thing, talk this way, walk that way, don't do this, act like that, speak like this, and blah and blah and blah. Those are NOT "

When my other girl friends go through a breakup, or they need dating advice. Everyone comes to me, even though I've been single AF for years, and have never even been in a serious relationship that lasted more than a year or two (back in my pickme days when I didn't leave at the first sign of disres

To cut a long story short, I need to temporarily move to a small town to get a few things done before getting a job in the city. Could be anywhere from 3-9 months in the town. I need to find a female flatmate or two in this town. Most of the flats I am seeing have 12 month fixed terms. I am a bit

I used to work in Depaetment A. In department A, I would drive 500-600 miles a month in addition to my commute. I worked with underserved populations so I spent a lot of time in objectively unsafe places like back alleyways, railroad tracks, sleazy motels (a LOT of sleazy motels) and the likes. Afte

I'm so glad that it's finally Friday, not because of any specific plans, but because I'm starting to feel more like my true self once again. Recently, I confronted an ongoing issue that had been weighing me down. For the longest time, I kept doubting myself, thinking that maybe I was overreacting o

This is a topic that I’m currently thinking about a lot. This is going to be quite vulnerable, so if you as the reader don’t have the mental capacity for that right now, this is your warning to stop reading. In my previous relationship, my partner was definitely the more experienced of us. He was a

I'm currently moving through some big (mostly positive) things in my professional sphere (and my life trajectory as a whole) and I am coming up against soooo much internal tension and resistance. 😰😓 Anyone relate to these kinds of growing pains? Appreciate for any words of wisdom from some of

As everyone knows, interest rates are through the roof right now. I found a small studio in a nice area of a popular city, which I can just about afford. Including bills, ground rent and service fees for the block, it would cost me around £300 a week. This obviously feels insane, especially as I w

I know this website discusses vetting for romantic partners, but right now I'm struggling with finding the right employer. My current workplace is pushing my boundaries right now and they don't support me learning important skills for my career development. Also red flags in how people treat each

So, I’ve sadly grown up surrounded by people who neglected themselves and important issues in their lives, fled from their traumas, drowned their worries in alcohol, etc. I truly feel like a “cycle breaker” among my relatives who by and large refuse to acknowledge how fucked up their pasts (and some