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Most pick me's are in bad marraiges/relationships/situationships.
This is why many single women wouldn't trade places with most married women they know.
Single pick me's are very rare becuase any woman can get a relationship if she is desperate enough.
There's always a manchild who needs a mommy/bangmaid, an old man needing a nurse or a young man needing a purse.
There's no shortage of anything, if a woman is single it means that she's not willing to settle.
That's why manosphere dating advice for women is always "lower your standards, no one gives a d*mn about your PHD" 🤣
They know if a woman's standards are low enough she will never be single.
Secretly they know that many single women will choose loneliness over a bad relationship hence the common threat: "you will die alone".
Instead these men should be embarrassed that single women would choose loneliness over them.
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Also, many single women have actually developed the social and emotional coping skills to deal with their loneliness in a mature, productive fashion. It isn't single girls screeching at attractive men online about how they OWE THEM something. It isn't single girls and women terrorizing HVM who are out and about minding their own business. The women I know who want relationships and families with HVM but haven't had that luck yet (and may never) are still generally prosocial, honest, and peaceful. If single men were the same, FDS wouldn't exist lol. But God forbid we actually ask men to take some notes and model their behavior after women.
That last sentence says it all. They don't want to do the levelling-up work so their only other option is to get women to lower their standards, otherwise they'll be the ones suffering from loneliness. Most single women do not feel lonely because they have put in the time and effort to build a social network of people they care about and for, and who do the same for them.
I love this post! And could not agree more. I think this what stopped me in the past from fully leaning in my past pick-me ways as I wanted to be in a loving and healthy relationship. At the time I didn’t know how to be single, thriving and happy. But you’re so right I think this what distinguishes the LVM vs HVM. The ones that are independent and happy with themselves. These LVM have just relied on others to give them happiness instead of finding and creating happiness in their lives.
"an old man needing a nurse or a young man needing a purse." I'm dying, lol!