My family were war refugees immigrants that became professors. So I grew up very culture, educated, and keenly empathetic - very involved in politics, and academia. When my family was young they were poor, but by the time my parents were both teaching they made close to a million. So I come from a "higher status" family now, all my siblings are either politicians, teachers, doctors, etc. I run a clinic myself. I raised my kids, my daughter is in dental school, my son is in international law. I have some okay money for a single woman. Nice new furniture, new car, town house, etc. I got a retirement nest egg, insurance policies, nice jewelry etc. I'm VERY giving and spoiled the living shit out my ex (bought him expensive guitars, took him on fancy trips etc). He had 7 children and so he has no money, not one cent, for retirement, despite being ten years my senior. In the decade we were together I got this man cars, signed loans for him, helped pay for his daughters wedding, etc while he literally NOTHING for me because he was broke as hell. Any money he earned he blew on pot for himself. I got sick of the one sided ness of the relationship and left. You would think a 56 year old man with NO money, no education, no career prospects, with a bald spot the size of his fist and dental problems up the ass would be hanging on with a death grip to amulti degreed, woman making money, ten years his junior with a dentist daughter who is helping him with his health and financial problems, with boobs bigger than his head and works IN an aging and cosmetics clinic so she gets excellent treatment to look phenomenal. All his friends wanted to bang me, all his kids said how lucky he was, even his ex in laws commented they were happy I met him. He could NOT for the life of him cut back on pot, save any kind of money, hold a job more than 6 months or even be grateful for anything done for him. I blamed myself initially wondering what about me could not compel him to want better for himself, took my dumb ass a while to realize he couldn't be better for his kids or himself either cause HE was broken and it had nothing to do with me, it was long before I came along and he remains long after I left....
You have to consider yourself lucky that you left this bum. Not only is he unable to better himself, he would use you and end sucking the life out of you until you're left with nothing. Men like that have no value; they just are leeches.
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May 05, 2022
Because he was never that interested to begin with. My favorite book Not Your Mother's Rules (Ellen Fein Sherry Schneider) quote: "he dropped the ball because he never wanted that ball to begin with"
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Exactly, LVMs are running away from themselves
My family were war refugees immigrants that became professors. So I grew up very culture, educated, and keenly empathetic - very involved in politics, and academia. When my family was young they were poor, but by the time my parents were both teaching they made close to a million. So I come from a "higher status" family now, all my siblings are either politicians, teachers, doctors, etc. I run a clinic myself. I raised my kids, my daughter is in dental school, my son is in international law. I have some okay money for a single woman. Nice new furniture, new car, town house, etc. I got a retirement nest egg, insurance policies, nice jewelry etc. I'm VERY giving and spoiled the living shit out my ex (bought him expensive guitars, took him on fancy trips etc). He had 7 children and so he has no money, not one cent, for retirement, despite being ten years my senior. In the decade we were together I got this man cars, signed loans for him, helped pay for his daughters wedding, etc while he literally NOTHING for me because he was broke as hell. Any money he earned he blew on pot for himself. I got sick of the one sided ness of the relationship and left. You would think a 56 year old man with NO money, no education, no career prospects, with a bald spot the size of his fist and dental problems up the ass would be hanging on with a death grip to a multi degreed, woman making money, ten years his junior with a dentist daughter who is helping him with his health and financial problems, with boobs bigger than his head and works IN an aging and cosmetics clinic so she gets excellent treatment to look phenomenal. All his friends wanted to bang me, all his kids said how lucky he was, even his ex in laws commented they were happy I met him. He could NOT for the life of him cut back on pot, save any kind of money, hold a job more than 6 months or even be grateful for anything done for him. I blamed myself initially wondering what about me could not compel him to want better for himself, took my dumb ass a while to realize he couldn't be better for his kids or himself either cause HE was broken and it had nothing to do with me, it was long before I came along and he remains long after I left....
Because he was never that interested to begin with. My favorite book Not Your Mother's Rules (Ellen Fein Sherry Schneider) quote: "he dropped the ball because he never wanted that ball to begin with"
I read somewhere a while back that it’s not so much a glass ceiling women face as a societal obstacle, but it’s the glass egos of men.
Their ego is a substitute for self-confidence. No wonder they never level up.
If he wanted to, he would!!
The comment is so accurate