Sunday Reflections (Nov 13th)- Accountability Thread

So my wins for this week was - I accepted a job offer!!! I am so grateful for this space as one of the Queens here had a post about salary negotiations that was so helpful. I used it and was able to negotiate a great contract! So I’m gonna be local (I’m living at home and helping my parents) and with higher pay too! As someone who tends to be passive communicating what I want I feel so empowered getting what I deserve - my therapy session was so helpful. We’ve started working on to have assertive communication and build healthy boundaries at the workplace. My other goals that we are working on are building self-acceptance, self-love, compassion and confidence. - we held 3 study sessions this week with my group and have been on Facebook answering each other’s questions in the group chat. - been a hermit this weekend just studying. Was able to finish all my practice questions and go through all the clinical terminology. Challenges - I didn’t make time to purchase accessories for my grad outfit so I have to make time for it - I got some fake lashes that I had Sephora makeup artist put on for a wedding. They were an amazing set that I saved and looked so beautiful and natural. I want to wear it again for my convocation but I don’t know how to put it on. 😭 does anyone have any tips or good videos to recommend. I was thinking of practicing tomorrow so I don’t put pressure on myself on my convocation.

Gained two new clients this week, replacing a difficult client and for a higher rate too! Booked twenty hours of driving lessons to take me up to Christmas.

I just had goals for this weekend:

(1) I worked out both days, although for shorter than usual due to getting outta bed lte and the gym closing.

(2) Got enough studying done for my exam on Dec 20 that I'll be done with my first pass through the material tomorrow. Ideally wouldve done it y today, but still glad I'm making progress!

Going to keep working on my fitness and studying goals for the next week, as well as reducing my sugar intake since lI can still feel the effects of the Kinder bars I ate Saturday 😅

You queens are so marvelous and en encouraging! So thank you 🥰

I had a really good week. As some of you know, I've shared about struggling with a limerent experience for a few years now. I developed limerence for a man who ended up ghosting me after we knew each other for a year. It caused me to have a breakdown, and I knew I had to change my life. I finally feel that I am letting go, moving on, and turning a corner. The obsessive thoughts tortured me for a long time, but they are now significantly reduced. It hit me this week that I am truly free of this torment. I can honestly say I'm grateful for the experience. I am at peace with it because I've used it to supercharge my own personal growth and transformation. I took the pain and used it as motivation to become a better version of myself. FDS has helped me so much in rebuilding my sense of self-worth and knowing what I deserve in a romantic relationship.

This week, I also ate healthy and drank lots of water. I felt very intellectually stimulated through reading books and watching some seminars about topics that fascinate me. I feel good in my body and in my life right now. I'm proud of everything I've accomplished--moving past the limerence, losing almost 50 pounds, being a caregiver for a parent, holding down a job, and also caring for myself in positive ways. I still have a long road ahead of me to get my life where I want it, but what matters is that I am making progress in the right direction.

1. Reflect on how it went with working on your goals

I have lost focus a few times but always redirected myself.

1. Your “win” for the week

Instead of continuing with a project that wasn’t working…I started over and it was worth the extra time spent!

1. Your “speed bump/challenge” this past week (relating to goal or not)

someone on a dating app deleted their account. I really connected with them, but I realize someone who deletes their whole account without saying goodbye was not worth my time anyway.

1. Strategy(s) to address challenges/goal

Making peace with insecurities while dating. I am attending meditation classes to overcome some old trauma and pain.