Sunday Reflections (Jul 17th)- Accountability Thread

Last week's goals went well ☺️ I ate healthy enough and worked out quite a bit. The only slight bump was my novel. I got stuck with my character profiles, so I'm going to leave them as it is and return to them next week.

I'm looking to start, though have been trying without posting for awhile (not since we left for our own wonderful site!) 1. Attempting to be more organized as I received a promotion in June that came with far more responsibility. How did it go? Not as well as I hoped it would. I spent time on Saturday catching up, which helped a lot. I developed a plan that will save time going forward.

2. Win - first draft of a marketing deck turned in. Completely out of my wheelhouse (any quick tutorials or courses welcomed! I need help with visuals as I'm a data nerd, and that's how I sway people in my industry). It was "well received", but I can't tell if that was professional courtesy. Next draft I plan to do better. Oy My plan to train my new hire went much better. I have turned over some significant tasks to them and the plan is to do even more in the next week. He is hesitant, but I have permission to just do it. We will see how that goes. I need the break as I have taken on tasks that are better for my career, aside from the marketing project (which may go either way).

3. Organization, managing the workload, the marketing piece. Also, catching up on the two week backlog. Boundaries? Work is bleeding into personal life, but offloading projects is expected to do that. I'm also making more money than I ever have, but somehow the budget is not working in my favor. I need to figure that out - inflation is out of control.

4. Time management plan and organizing my day/schedule. It's getting done. Thanks for this space!

Hey ladies so I wanted to comment on a win and a challenge for myself this week. So my win is taking myself on a date. This was recommended by some of the ladies here and I’m so glad that I did it! So I basically gave myself everything I wanted a man to do for me on a date or in general in our relationship. I got myself all dressed up too!! I love lunch dates so I took myself to this new restaurant in this trendy area of the city. I got a nice window seat and had no phone out and basically was fully present with the food and space. I was so proud of myself for being comfortable in this space. The restaurant was filled with all couples expect 2 girl friends eating together. I did get some stares from the couples but I didn’t care 🙌🏾 Afterwards I got myself deserts, walked around the area, checked out a new book store and picked up my pottery that I made and I went vintage/antique shopping and ended the night with buying takeout and snuggling in my bed afterwards watching a film. I’m so proud of myself and I’m excited to keep taking myself out. A challenge I had this week was eating so poorly and not being physically active. I’ve basically have been buying so much fast food for lunch and dinner 😬 and def my body has felt it. I’ve realized now that I was prioritizing my school way too much and now I need to make sure that I need to make time for eating well and going back to my Zumba classes.

Relationships: I had planned to read a book about high conflict divorce but I took a short break from the self help books this week. I just needed a bit of time without the doom, gloom and coming stress. I did organize all my financial documents and paperwork well so I'm ready for whatever comes next. Education: I ordered my supplies and got started on schoolwork early. I am really excited for the progress in this chapter of my life! I've been trying hard and growing a ton since leaving my abusive husband. Self Care: Check and check! I read an awesome book (just for fun) that honestly might be one of my favorites in a while. And I zoned out twice to a movie and snacks this week. Body: My hair appointment is next week and I'm looking forward to it. I've kept a great routine of exercising every day and tracking my meals. It's going well and I've felt really proud of myself. Friendships: I met with 3 different friends this week and really enjoyed the time with them. I met a new friend too. Amazing how friendly people are and what a good friend I can be when my husband isn't whispering lies in my ear! I was told for over a decade that people didn't like me and that I didn't make a good friend. I'm learning week by week that isn't true! It's eye opening! Hobbies: I had planned on taking a class or trying one new hobby this week. I didn't get around to making an appointment but I have my next idea at least. Next week I'll sign up for the class.

Good morning, Queens! I am updating on Monday morning (Sunday was so busy!). My one goal for the week was to continue my new sleep schedule -- 10 p.m. to 6 a.m. -- and continue to put down/turn off all "devices" at 9 p.m. for a one-hour relaxation before bed.

Results: Still a work in progress, but doing better. I did manage to make the 10 p.m. bedtime most nights, but I sort of lost it on the weekend. I went out to a movie Friday night and I think I didn't get to bed until midnight or so. I was unbelievably sleepy when I went "off schedule," though, so I think that's a good sign. I didn't make it to bed by 10 Sunday night; once again it was nearly midnight when I crashed.

I still think my plan is a good one; I just have to be more strict with myself on weekends.

As for the 9-10 p.m. "relaxation hour," that is going pretty well, but I think I'm going to reconsider some of my down-time activities. I have been reading during that hour, but sometimes the things I read just get me more riled up. I think I need to do something even more lowkey and soporific. Bubble baths are nice in the wintertime, as is sitting and dreaming in front of the fireplace, but it's the hottest part of the summer here now, so those things are NOT HAPPENING at the moment!