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Hey all, hope yall had a good weekend. There's something that's been bothering me for a long time now, but especially over this past week and I'm not sure what is the best way to deal with my issue.
I've stated on here a couple of times that I'm currently in grad school studying electrical engineering, and I really enjoy it, but there have been so many times when I will get talked down to by males and treated like I'm stupid and don't belong there.
Recently, I've been losing a lot of patience and giving into irritation. I've had a couple guys over the past couple of weeks shame me for not knowing about an obscure tool and got accused of not knowing it's midterm season (trust me, I know it is...). It's always really small, petty shit.
The guy who exclaimed, "DO YOU REALLY NOT KNOW IT'S MIDTERMS?!" after I asked flippantly if a bunch of people really were involved in someone's grad thesis really pissed me off. I was pissed because a) I was wondering why there were so many people involved in one grad project b) where the fuck did that even come from?
Later he asked me if I listen to any music, and I said "yeah" and replied "do you really...?" in a mocking tone. What the fuck? Where is this coming from? He barely even knows me but apparently he knows everything? Right?
It doesn't matter that I take dance classes every week and play music all the goddamn time... no.. he just DECIDED who I was and that's how it gonna be, huh?
Anyways, I don't want to keep giving in to my temper because I don't want people to think I'm unhinged, difficult, etc. I am going to try my best to be successful and i need to raise my chances of success to get there.
How do yall deal with guys who talk down to you and are patronizing you? What are your best tips?
Stare him for a few seconds grimacing like he's got three heads, say "you sound like a [any insult that might or might not make sense, confusing him is cool, try "burn victim", or if that's too weird, just "psycho) right now", and then walk away. Then just avoid him as much as you can. It'll give you the upper hand so he stops thinking that you're beneath him. Then excel in your career and become his boss.