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In the last week, including today, my family and I have been hit with deaths of some family friends from cancer. All the people we've lost are women.
It has made me very somber and acted as a reminder that we won't live forever. Nobody knows when they're time to leave this earth will come so it's paramount that we spend time doing things that actually matter. Especially us women who many times, put others before ourselves.
For me, these deaths have reminded me to do the following:
Continue to eat healthily - I really love eating cereal and last night, I spent time reading about processed foods, of which, cereal is one. Please remove as much processed food from your diet as you can. One thing I'm really going to get into is adopting a Japanese and/or Mediterranean diet. They eat really healthily.
Continue to drink a lot of water - I do this and will continue to do so.
Continue to sleep early and sleep long.
Continue to focus on my passions - these include learning languages, playing instruments, reading and much more.
Focus on people that are worth it - good friends and family members are hard to come by. I'm fortunate that I have people in my life that I can rely on. If you have great friends and family members, please cherish them. Having people you can truly trust, who have your back and cheer you on is very very hard to find these days. There's so much jealousy, competitiveness, envy and "plotting to take orders down", in our world today.
Many pickmes, as we know, make their entire lives about men. This is one of the worst things you can do because, as we also know, a lot of men aren't worth it. A lot of men send women to an early grave. I ask and plead that we women, of FDS, continue to level up by decentering men completely. If you find a quality man, that's great. He should add to your already great life. But even if you don't, please remember that you are worth it, you're unique, you matter and your life means something, which is why you were put on this earth.
That's all I wanted to say. I just felt compelled to write this to serve as a reminder and hopefully, to encourage any one who may need some encouragement.
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I agree. Not only are we on this earth for a limited time, but there are only so many hours in the day. Time spent with a LVM or a pick-me is time that could have been spent on self-improvement or with a HVM or a real friend. I'm not saying don't have anything to do with men, but you definately shouldn't build your entire life around them. They certainly don't do that for us.
I focus on the good things in life that makes me happy, dance, art, money travel and try all kinds of dishes. No man makes me more happy than those things but ever lasting joy is found in financial independence. Actually fully indepencence from men is a joy women are willign to forsake for the fairytale about living happily ever after with men that never comes true.
You don't need to make traveling, dancing and have your own money work, they automatically work for you. There is nothing wrong with loving money and view it as your knight in shining armor.
Better a gold digger or shallow cat lady than be thrown in the first wife's club when he's done with you. There is no greater bitterness than being a abandonned barbera the builder or a hospice wife on her deathbed wishing she did this or that while her so called husband filed for divorce as soon as she got sick.