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I recently realise I may be attracted to women besides men. I know FDS tells us not to think of men with a scarcity mindset, but let's be honest, HVM are a minority. The number of HVW simply outnumber HVM so some of us are bond to be single. I had crushes back when I was unwoke and all of them turned out to be taken. They may not be that HV but it shows how men of my type are popular among other women so there's "competition". Meanwhile, I'm not that into the men who had pursued me, and yes, some of them had a lot of deal breakers. It's frustrating how they men I had liked are always taken and how while there are some men who had pursued me, some of them are far from reaching my standards.
Since I may be attracted to women, I wonder if I should give wlw a shot. It's true that wlw women can be LV too, but I think women as a cohort are less likely to use their SOs for sex before dumping them for someone else, cheat, have hygiene issues, or become violent. However, I had never truly dated a woman so I don't know if I am truly attracted to women. I think it will hurt another woman a lot if I leave her but I understand things like this happen.
I am also aware of the existence of homophobia. My parents will probably freak out and will frown upon a wlw relationship. I don't know if my parents wil make things very difficult for me and my wlw partner. Other people I know and strangers may also treat me differently if I end up in a same-sex relationship.
Please, do this experiment with bisexual women instead of lesbians. A lot of lesbians have trauma about bicurious women dating them, creating bonds and then leaving them for the men they really want. Also it gives scrotes ammo to say "lesbians should just try dick" or "they haven't tried the right dick".
I will be honest with you. I have dated women before, starting from a young age of 14-15, though it was long distance, before bravely dating women openly once I became an adult. Dating women carries its own heartaches, drama, and bullshit just like if I was dating men. Women are capable of lying, cheating, stringing women along for attention or boredom or some other reason, not being over an ex and putting you through hell over it, etc etc. Whoever said that dating women is easier or better is either clueless or hasn't dated enough to know that truth.
Having said this, dating women, statistically speaking, is much more safer than dating men. Women do not usually rape each other like men rape women, especially women they are dating or married to. So there's that silver lining.
If you're not sure if you're attracted to women, definitely be upfront about that. A lot of women don't want to be an experiment, which is understandable, but some won't mind, provided that they find you attractive and want to get to know you. Take it slow, be mindful of your boundaries as well as other womens' boundaries, and have fun!
I was curious about this as well - it makes logical sense to me and research has shown that most of us are on a spectrum (not the binary of gay or “straight”).I explored dating women and it helped me understand myself and how I date/places for personal growth a lot better. It also helped me learn what I want in a hvm more. So long as you are upfront with the women in terms of where you are at in your sexuality journey I think it is awesome to explore and have fun.
Bi woman here. Yeah, deffo be honest that you are bi, rather than lesbian. As someone who has dated women I have found that some women can be very intense and quick to try and "lock you into a relationship" rather than accepting that you might want to take your time and meet other people. As with any relationship, boundaries are key. 🌷
I think avoiding a scarcity mindset is to keep you from settling for LV men and to keep you from thinking it is appropriate to hate women.
Like @myheartisfulloflove said: any cishet woman who feels dating women is easier/drama free is laughable to me.