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Where/how to find based / radfem female partners

I was wondering if any lesbians or bi women had tips on how to find girlfriends/female partners who hold radfem or radfem-leaning politics

A lot of "lesbian" or "LGBT" dating apps are a cesspool of liberal feminist bs

Thanks in advance 😊

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Techerino

Jul 04, 2023

You can look for the keyword “Febfem”. It means Female exclusive bisexual. It has been flagged as “transphobic” and code language for TERF since it excludes non-biological women (hence the word female).

Some women will hide it from their profile to avoid aggression (I do).

With other women you can maybe start the topic on how women are treated in the gay community and what they think about the exodus of lesbians from this community and the activism of LGB movements (sans T).

My experience tho is that most of them are libfem and hang on to queer theory (pro trans). So poke around gently.

Hope it works out! 🩷🧡💛💚💙💜💘

Techerino

Jul 04, 2023

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Yes non-biological woman is a biological male. I try to stay in the language of the internet, there are no other descriptions of it. I didn’t make it up.

Welcome in 2023 🥲

BaglessUpright

Jul 05, 2023

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We dont get in trouble on FDS for calling men men. You dont have to say ridiculoud things like "Non-biological females".

Techerino

Jul 05, 2023

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I think it’s important in this context to use the lingo that is being used in the in the lgbt community to describe febfems. Febfem also comes from that community. So with that in mind saying “they don’t date men” can leave room open for interpretation that they do date men in dresses who identify as “lesbian”. There are also new members on this platform. Not everything is for fds veterans.

The way I’m not letting people dictate how I use words outside of fds is the same way I won’t let anyone dictate how I use words on this platform, especially when discussing stuff from a community I am a part of. I have my reasons to use certain words and they are always in service of clarity. I am not sensitive to whether or not I get “in trouble” on fds and I’m really sorry if I gave you the impression that I was.

Smug nihilist

Jul 04, 2023

I was honestly thinking of just using this place for that reason but I'm also so busy that I only have one radfem friend rn lol.

A lot of the times irl when it comes to natural conversations you can spot one when they actually try having deep conversations about something gender related.

One time I had a friend who complained about drag queens and couldn't put her finger on what it was, I was like "yeah because their vision of femininity is gross and misogynistic while everyone thinks it's cute and funny + TV shows and thousands of dollars" and she excitedly agreed like she was living in a bubble absolutely ready to have someone shred her opinions. If a woman wants to go deeper in a conversation she's most certainly radfem or radfem material without even knowing it.

I tend to avoid people who just say the woke things so they don't get "mind punished" , includes stating platitudes and meaningless statements just to look normal.

Techerino

Jul 04, 2023

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Yes those shows are horrible and those dudes are unpredictable and scary. Always always hated them and for the life of me couldn’t understand the appeal.

I am feminine looking with curly hair, natural breasts, not ugly etc basically everything they want but can’t have. They touch my hair and one time I got groped by one of them after one of their “shows”. I knew to stay calm because no one would have my back.

They are so fucking entitled when they put on a dress, as if everything is allowed bc they are “women” now. I’m sorry, but natural women don’t grope each other like that.

Some even hit women in that state, like a gay bitch slap, as if there is no male force in it.

Literally all (feminine looking) lesbians I know have stories of assault by gay men and men in drag. None of them classifies it as assault, bc the gay community forbids it.

There is so much wrong with males in ever (sub)culture. They are all socialised to be these messed up creatures, gay straight or otherwise.

The real butch lesbians get beaten up and called names in the street and the feminine lesbians get sexually assaulted in and outside of the scene. Life is awesome.

Smug nihilist

Jul 05, 2023

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Males literally think sexual assault is a human right I swear, they can't imagine a world without it existing. There always needs to be SOMETHING that's assaulted with them, it's pathetic.

Although I am sorry that happened to you, I would've punched one if they touched me I swear.

I wasn't actively against their existences because I'm a busy lady and I don't judge but honestly if you think about it for more than 5 minutes you can watch RuPaul and be like "oh this is a disgusting display of capitalism, materialism and misogyny combined for a mediocre experience". My sister used to watch RuPaul non-stop because of her own insecurities and watching competition reinforces "the mean girl" in her brain. So trust me I'm not bashing anyone blindly lol we'd get drunk AF watching whole seasons of it until I got bored and started having "aha" moments.

Techerino

Jul 05, 2023

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Yeah, this happened years ago I was in my late teens and it overwhelmed me completely. Also scared because I realised I would have to punch an adult man. I would break his hands if it would happen now…

Men are insane no matter their sexuality. I have an ex gf who always dressed well, high heels and dresses. She once went to a mixed queer party and this random homo comes up to her and licks her from her neck over her cheek all the way up to her forehead in one go. She just stood there covered in human saliva. She was so disgusted and he just kept on waking. It so insanely unhinged.

Another time I was with two lesbian friends at a gay bar and this dude started to rip of her clothes, opening her blouse and touching her all over. He literally kept charging at her while she pushed him away repeatedly. His friend started yelling at us that he’s gay so we shouldn’t worry. Instead of stopping his insane friend. We actually had to call for security (another male).

It’s as if a butch lesbian would walk up to a gay and starts pulling his d*ck while saying “don’t worry, I don’t enjoy this either”. It simply doesn’t happen. We see people as humans.

I highly suspect that their objectification of female bodies and disrespect start at childhood for men. That they turn out gay/straight doesn’t matter.

And yeah ru Paul is on a whole new level. Took me a while to realise that all the drag queens when describing their character would say things like “my character is a slut/dumb ho/stupid/crazy etc”. Nothing positive and no normal qualities. Gay men love it, so it’s ofc an integral part of the gay scene. Fuck women.

I personally stay clear from gay men, because they are still men, which means mentally ill at their core.

Noemie Mathilde

Jul 05, 2023

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Ask them what their thoughts on Poly are. If they say "it sounds like a flaming dumpster fire" then you may have a keeper.

Mugwort

Jul 05, 2023

Thank you for starting this discussion! I actually just recently went on OLD for a less than 24 hour experiment and was shocked at how many of the women were in ENM/poly/open relationships. I had no idea what ENM was until I googled it. The majority seemed to be libfems, opposed to radfem, and protrans. Other than OLD, you can always try meeting women based on your interests like meetup groups for hiking, painting, etc. All the best to you!

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