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I was in the kink community last year and the experiences traumatized me. We have pride month in my Country this year and this is extremely triggering for me.
Today an official organization for disabled queer people posted a picture showing BDSM as something beautiful and safe.
I can't take it anymore since I know the truth. The community is festered with rape and abuse. How the fuck do I cope? It's everywhere. People who don't know anything about it just see it as "a free sexuality."
I get so depressed by this. It's literally everywhere. This pro BDSM push and the trans community is a genius move by The Patriarchy. Nobody listens to individual women like me.
How do I cope?
I will forever be sad and disappointed that Pride parades turned from a protest for human rights with all of the NSFW stuff happening behind closed doors (or at least discreetly) to a trans and kink festival with half or completely naked people covered in dildos and living out their kinks at every corner. There was a time, when you could take your kids to the parades and have a nice time.
As someone who has been an ally all my life and has many close friends and family members in the LGB community, I actually think this is harming the cause and many of my friends and family agree with me.
Telling people "We are people, couples and families just like you who deserve equal rights" and then basically having a kink convention/sex party in broad daylight in the middle of the city in the name of "diversity" does not work well together, because it basically confirms all of their adversaries' worst fears and fantasies. If all you get to see of LGBT (and whatever additional letters there are now) people in public as a conservative or sheltered person is BDSM, kink, sex and trans stuff, it is pretty easy to be convinced that they shouldn't be allowed to get married or adopt kids or to not hire someone "like that" in your business. It's actively harming the LGB couples who are just trying to live their life as a couple or family like everyone else.
In my opinion every movie or TV show that shows an LGB couple that is just normal, mature people living their lives and doing their jobs and not poly, kinky, trans, partying, taking drugs, engaging in casual sex etc. etc. does more for acceptance and representation than pride parades do these days.
Half naked trans people and BDSM couples dancing in the streets will not convince an older or conservative homophobic person. A sympathetic, normal TV character that is shown in a loving, mature relationship with a person of the same gender living a boring normal life might.
Sounds like following this group does more harm than good, so unfollow them. Now might be a good time to take a break from socials to let your mind relax. After some bad experience with BDSM myself I decided it wasn't for me and I don't engage in conversations about it. I stopped sharing my traumatizing experience with people since their response is always something stupid that put blame on me for what happened and not the person actually performing the abuse. I'm sharing this with you OP as a recommendation to keep this trauma between you and a potential therapist. You're right, it's sad the way BDSM is normalized in popular culture and infested LGBT spaces where it was purposefully the type of thing kept behind closed doors. And I'm sorry for what happened to you. Know you're not alone and you came to the right place.
I think you should continue to do what you're doing. Make comments, speak up. More people than you realize feel the way you do. Maybe join a group that is pushing back against BDSM/poly/sex positive nonsense (Gays Against Groomers might be a good choice).