(nsfw) Men who don't give oral.. how?

You aren't the first person to notice this phenomenon.

Avoid these types of men.

I dated a porn-addict LVM for 3 years and he did not go down on me a single time(!!!). I was inexperienced and thought it was normal. Of course he was pushy and coercive in getting me to go down on him. 😣 I don’t think all men who don’t give oral are gay. Many of them are porn-addicted, selfish, manipulative, withholding, impatient, misogynistic, greedy, lazy, etc.

My HV boyfriend loves going down on me. He initiates it often! He adores giving me pleasure, and he is so passionate when giving to me, he is vocal and enthusiastic and makes it 100x more enjoyable knowing he’s loving every moment.

If a man does not initiate and enjoy going down on you, he cannot be salvaged, and he should be thrown away. I would say that if you’ve been sexually active with a man for a month (maximum) and he’s never shown any interest in going down on you, he’s sexually LV and not worthy of you. Ideally your FIRST sexual experience with a new man involves him giving you oral. It will NOT improve over time and you should NEVER think that “communicating” with him about it will cause him to be more sexually generous.

I had this exact conversation with a friend this weekend... in two years he has received weekly and given three times... three! She is considering leaving him because he also falls asleep straight after sex when she has not had an orgasm (sadly I had to agree that this is a thing)... all these men have is the audacity...

I don't understand how some are so repulsed by it. Like, I'm straight, but the idea still doesn't repulse me. If for some odd hypothetical reason I needed to it would just be neutral. Especially compared to bjs, sounds a lot less annoying.

Men should always give oral. There's no reason for them to receive it. It's the orgasm gap.

These men are gay. Not judging, just saying the exact definition of gay is when a guy does not want to do sexual things to your vagina. Extremely gay.

Reading men's reluctance to give oral makes me less sad to never had sex. I used to think I missed out a lot. But what's the point of being intimate with a guy without receiving? Not to mention the orgasm gap.

I wonder if there's a way to vet a man for this?

I might get hate for this but its been on my mind for a while.

Men are aware that giving oral sex is a degrading submissive act that provides no sexual stimulation to the giver.

Men are inherently selfish, transactional and logical thinkers. That's why they're so insistent on oral sex being one sided.

That's why men use "suck my dick" as an insult.

Personally, I don't like receiving or giving oral sex because I don't see the point of it. It's degrading and not necessary for an orgasm. I hate how society tries to constantly normalize and treat it as something that's necessary.

Why should I have to painfully wax myself completely bald down there just so I can potentially have a few minutes of pleasure? Why risk a uti/bacterial infection/messed up ph? How exactly would I benefit from choking myself with a mans genitals? Why should I use my mouth when I already have a built in organ (vagina) that was designed to handle sex?

The human mouth is full of bacteria, even if dental hygiene is rigorously maintained. (Lets face it most men have mediocre dental hygiene at best.)

Just what I need. A mans dirty saliva on my freshly waxed/shaved skin. I'm sure I won't get an infection/irritation from that at all. 🙄

Men like receiving oral because of pornsickness and misogyny. Women want reciprocation and libfems brainwash us into thinking receiving oral is the best/only option to get an orgasm from a man. The truth is that most men are just bad in bed and lazy with foreplay.

If a man expects you to perform oral on him but won't do/barely does the same for you in return it's because he hates you. It's that simple. Dump him.

I consider myself lucky in that I have never had a partner who didn't regularly give me oral. I've never had to ask for it either, they always offered.

I'd love to see a survey done on men who don't perform oral. I'm interested in seeing if there is any correlation to age, ethnicity, or country of residence.

I'm bi and have experience with both. Giving oral to women is great actually, but I think a lot of men avoid it because 1. they've been conditioned to see vaginas as something unclean and disgusting and 2. orally servicing women means doing something for them without expecting anything in return, which makes men feel like they're being submissive or emasculated.

I usually don't go down on men, I have TMJ and it makes my jaw hurt. With my highschool boyfriend, I wasn't ready to have sex, so it was mostly him going down on me. Most of the guys I've been with love it and do it eagerly, many see it as a reward. If a guy thinks he's too good to eat my pussy, it's obvious that he's a porn addict and a waste of time.

And if they do...they are so obviously uninterested.

honestly, I’m not really sure about men and their oral preferences. I think some guys are truly selfish, they may not have found “THE” vagina they want to taste, or they may be gay but don't know it yet maybe?

My first boyfriend, we both lost our virginities together. He never gave me oral. He once tried to go down and then said I smell. Which I KNOW for a fact 100% I do not smell down there because I would prepare because I wanted oral especially since I was SO generous to him in bed. I said “really??” And then he said “idk” and then he’s like “it doesn’t smell. I’m sorry” and then he started to give one lick and by that time I wanted him to gtfo away from me because it just put me out of the mood. We broke up for many many many other reasons.

My second ex had about 3 sexual partners before me and he said I’m the first woman he ever gave oral to. He said his last ex gave him shit for not wanting to to give oral to her. He said his last ex said to him: “it’s 2020 and you still don’t eat pussy?!!!” He said to me that he just had no desire to go down on his past partners. He also never tongue kissed with them. He said that he felt mouths were nasty. But when he met me, he decided he wanted to tongue kiss and he gave me oral. He said that I am clean, smell good, he loves me, and he really wants to do it. Of course the first few times he was getting used to giving oral (it still felt good, but you can tell this was his first time and he is learning. And it was my first time too as the receiver!!) and then…… he got addicted to it. Lol. He loved it and would always ask ME if he can give me oral. I never had to ask. He got to be so good at it. I will give him acknowledgement on that. He was generous in bed. We still broke up for many other reasons.