How I date women vs men

Since the topic got started, I wanted to share how I take FDS into WLW as a bisexual woman. Obviously, most red flags for men translate over to women:

Bad communication, always late, not financially stable, poor mental health, no friends, no meaningful hobbies, lacks proper hygiene, cruel to animals, short temper, wanting to get physical too soon, hates women, watches porn, has an OF, still talks to their ex, etc.

But some don’t:

Gaming, anime, being a single mom, going 50/50, etc.

Double standards? Yeah. But women are built different and creating an equitable, dare I even say EQUAL, relationship with women is much, much easier. I don’t see men as equal to me like I do women. Men have to prove themselves a lot more because associating with a man is much more dangerous. They weren’t socialized like women. They have to pay for the dates, the vacations, the gifts, the bills, everything. In my relationships with men he must be a provider and enjoy doing it. Only after marriage will a man get to dip into my purse. The same is not true when I date women, I am ok with paying for her or going 50/50, whatever she prefers . I don’t do low effort dates, either. I’m gonna dress up and I’m gonna take her somewhere romantic. I don’t mind going 50/50 with women because most of them know how to cook, clean, manage their finances, properly wash themselves, plan their days, go to their doctors, etc. There is a near zero chance she’s going to act like a helpless child. Even the crazies I dated could do all that, they were just, well, crazy.

With women, yes I have had bad experiences, but of the 10 women I’ve gone on dates with only four of them were what I’d call crazy. And of those 6 that weren’t crazy, I got really loving, caring, warm, sweet, fun relationships with 2 of them and boring or otherwise unremarkable dates with the other 4. So that means in my limited experience it’s a 20/40/40 split which I think is pretty normal for women tbh. A LOT of women still have high amounts of internalized misogyny, unchecked mental illness, and a lot of trauma from the world. Not saying it’s right they treat people poorly, but it is understandable. They still fall into the undatable LV category tho and need a lot of help before they become worthwhile.

If you’d like to hear my stories with each crazy lady the link is here: https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/main/comment/628e4a6bf1c7ec001765e0bb?postId=628bd31ad4d0740016c4aad3

The fourth woman was actually someone I’d gone to high school with. I’d never known she was a lesbian. But the story is I had a rotation and she kept flaking (she was really hot, but I’ve grown to stop accepting flakiness lol). While she was flaking this dude kept asking me out on dates and so I kept accepting, obviously, he and I grew very close and so when he asked to be my bf I agreed. I deleted the app, completely forgetting about this woman and I’s date bc she’d flaked on all the rest of em. What would make this one different? 💀 Lo and behold, I get a text from a mutual friend saying so and so and I had a date planned and she really wanted to go out, was it ok if my mutual friend gave so and so my number? I said no, she’d flaked on me and I deleted the app bc I got a bf now. My mutual friend still sent so and so my number, even tho I said no, and she insisted that we go on our date. Apparently me being unavailable was enough to peak her interest. Horrible. The man was really sweet, too, but it ended cuz he wanted kids and thought childfree meant not having kids now, not never having kids.

Any other ladies like to chime in on how their dating experience is the same/different?