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I've been talking to this woman from Tinder (I know) and so far I think she's great and cool and was excited to meet her.
However I'm less excited now because today I asked her what she was up to and she told me she's going on a date with someone else. I've also been seeing other people so this isn't like a possessive thing, it just feels so rude to me? Like if I'm hanging out with another love interest I just lie or say nothing about what I'm doing. She also weirdly told me she didn't know what the "vibe" was if it was a hook-up/booty call situation or a real date (basically letting me know she's maybe on her way to fuck someone).
I'm triggered because the two times in the past someone has been open with the details of going on other dates/sleeping with other people before even the first date (or during the early dating phases), they lead to relationships or situationships where I was blatantly triangulated, my self-esteem eroded which took forever to recover from. I've never had a good relationship with someone who pulled this kind of thing. Rudeness/lack of social intelligence maybe I can overlook but the possibility of being triangulated by someone again legitimately scares me.
I was about to block/delete but part of me wondered if I was being too sensitive? What do you gals think.
I wouldn’t take it from a man, so I won’t take it from a woman.
Weird.
"told me she didn't know what the "vibe" was if it was a hook-up/booty call situation or a real date" She sounds like chaos, if I may say that. You might want to listen to your gut to know if you're into meeting someone who screens your vibes on that scale and then ranks that result publicly in between contestants of the other Tinder vibe conferences.
Never doubt or second guess your feelings. You got the ick because its ick. It’s rude, tacky and low value. Especially to then say she might be hooking up….gross. I think one issue women have while dating other women is becoming “friends” too quickly and being too open too fast. You don’t share information like that with a date, you both should be showing each other your best selves and trying to impress each other. But in this case, I think she did you a favour. This allows you not to waste any more time on her, take her out of the rotation and focus your time on people who you’re compatible with.
It is very rude. It sounds like she’s already letting you know upfront that she’s going to expect you to compete with other suitors. I know that’s part of what dating is, but to be so overt about it shows a lack of consideration for your feelings. She may just be looking for validation.
If a man did this to me, I’d B&D immediately. I don’t know whether or not the dynamic with same-sex relationships is different, but I still think it’s incredibly rude.
Nah you're not being too sensitive that was too much
Wow, a female scrote
I think it's tacky no matter the gender. it's like they want to brag about how much action they get which reads as very immature to me. Discretion is something I value so I prefer people don't tell me every last detail. We're all dating around here, you're not special boo!
Not bi or lesbian, so it’s your choice as to whether or not you feel my opinion is valuable, but this behaviour sounds like bad news.
In the past, guys who did this to me often tried come off as the honest, and it was expected that their honesty was appreciated however, this is just not okay. If there was mutual interest, this girl wouldn’t be doing shit like this, because early on, both of you would trying to impress and make each other happy.