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General psychology of trans women
I've dated a handful of transwomen (around 8 or so. It's a large amount considering how few there are) I live in a wealthier area where white people just have time to waste on unproductive identities and "finding themselves" so I've just coincidentally dated that many. Lots of rainbow hair folks around here.
Here's what they all had in common:
- Rude af (They think being a woman is a great excuse to be a douche without concequences.)
- Insecure (Literally crying, foaming at the mouth, angry that I find Instagram models more attractive than them.)
- Racist (associating feminity with whiteness and white culture, they tend to call woc not pretty enough and they aim specifically for the anxious white girls.)
- Asking me to pay for food when they make 20-30k more than me (They associate femininity with just getting free shit and again being a douche.)
- Frequent porn consumption. Oh but if you do it's bad because they're insecure.
- They're always either anxious/insecure or just super lazy. (The super lazy ones associate femininity with just not lifting a finger, the anxious ones associate it with being "weak and scared")
- They always made me do the "man things" e.i paying fucking rent because they think it'll make them feel more "feminine".
- 5 out of those 8 sexually assaulted me or tried raping me. They tried playing it off like it was foreplay or they'd try getting me high in order to do it. Once they found out I generally do well while stoned and drunk they got bored and bitchy about it. They've even told me I'm not "feminine" enough simply because I'm able to defend myself , keep boundaries and not let my life play out like a low budget porn.
So let's break it down.
They're literally just incels that gave up on being masculine.
They view womanhood as some type of dreamland despite the violence data and history we have under the assumption that we're living the good life just because we go shopping sometimes.
They think being a woman means "Live free, have sex, do nothing" because that's their own misogynistic view of women.
They commit so much suicide because that's literally not what being a woman is all about and they create more problems for themselves, they're never to represent the futa hentai porn they watch. If they can't handle being the most privileged demographic on the planet they're not going to handle being seen as lesser by men.
I have a real fuckin problem with people associating me and many other women as "Conservative" just because we want healthy satisfactory relationships with people we trust and are attracted to. Life is so much more complex and complicated than right winger vs left winger.
As far as I'm concerned it's always been men vs women and children. The data supports this claim and it reflects all the weird social subgenres we've had to create just to inch away from men a little more.
You may pretend it's more nuanced than that but it literally all comes down to that and if you don't figure that out I'm just going to assume you're a teenager who's never dated.
I'm a very charismatic person, I trusted these fucks, I did everything right and they really tried to fuck me over.
On hormones they get a limp dick and sometimes it's bad for their dysphoria, so they try stealing your time and money instead because they always need to take something, they always need to feel like they're winning somehow even though they fucked their lives up.
Notice also how a lot of trans positive people are just heterosexual males, women are the ones uncomfortable and sticking up for themselves but the straight males are just kicking back and relaxing because they don't feel violated and simply they have more "feminine holes" to objectify.
The straight men like them, why aren't they obsessively trying to invade straight men's spaces? Why do they get mad about "chasers"? And why are they "Chasing" pretty cis white women that have their shit together?
Not to mention they amount of literal Nazi incels going on Twitter, bragging about being trans. "I used to be a Nazi and now I'm trans!" It's like cool? You could also just not be a Nazi. They're literal MRAs that think they're absolutely crushing us with their shit but honestly they're harmless because these fuckers don't leave the house, they don't have jobs. If they need a new identity each week in order to not crush under the meaninglessness of life then fine.
My best solution for dealing with them is just being a bitch to them and isolating them. If they call you a terf just be like "Sorry I have BPD hahaha"
They love bothering the attractive sjw types (glasses, pins, woke language.) Because they're perfect pick-me targets for that shit, it's literally a fetish to them at this point, they even try looking like sjws during their transition sometimes because they think they'll have ownership of a character in their mind that they made up to represent women.
I also remember a woman's march happening in Mexico and this like actual child (19 years old) living with his parents was like "There's no march happening here, women aren't that oppressed here, I'd know because I'm a transgirl". It's like aight, what would you have to gain by denying a protest going on? Any time there's a woman's march the moids get mad and they're really no different.
I think what pisses me off the most about this is that people can't just have sympathy for us? They avoid us like the plague and unfriend you, even if they were the toxic one to begin with. Old people get cut slack for being racist and sexist all the damn time but straight and gay women can't cut us some fuckin slack and be understanding as to why we might be uncomfortable?
Not to mention women get more severe punishment for being transphobic but they won't dare scold an old guy about being transphobic because it's too scary for them, despite males being the only creatures that kill trans women.
It's just a constant battle to "one up" women and I'm tired, I don't give a shit. I see one and I avoid them.
Maybe one day I'll make a dating app for only cis women and to make an account I'll quiz them on zodiacs and chakras or some shit.
I actually respect trans men , although I will say most of them don't even fuckin try and they're just teenage girls trying to get away with being masculine (aka a normal human.) , They don't even care about misgendering half the time But I generally will respect a trans man's pronouns. Although if they're a bitch I'll gladly just ghost them like I do with trans women. A lot of them have fuckin anger issues and no real hard problems so it's REAL easy to not give a shit.
They try making it seem like a nerd uprising but I promise you these people don't have jobs and can't maintain relationships for longer than 6 months. They used to crowd around me because my confident personality made them "feel safe", I am very much not concerned. They're just sheltered middle-class white kids that hate women.
Thank you for reading my post have a good dayyyyy.
I can't believe you dated 1, let alone 8 of them. 🤮
All I can say is that I hate these creatures. And no I'm not hating on my fellow sisters because these Frankenstein transvestites are not women. They are dudes and more dangerous than the average biological male because all they need is a dress with delusion and they can invade our space with no problem. Trans women are vile and evil because if they weren't they would advocate for different locker/bathrooms.
Don't believe they are evil? Look up Riley Gaines, and look up the incident where a loony trans beat up a girl because she doesn't want him in there, Posey Parker told a man who "Identifies as a woman" To stay away from women restrooms because her daughter needs to feel safe.
"I live in a wealthier area where white people just have time to waste on unproductive identities and "finding themselves""
no surprises there 😂
I've definitely heard of incel to trans and Nazi to trans pipeline. So I'm not shocked that you noticed this while dating these types.
They even openly admit online that they were these things! It's crazy.
I also hate the rhetoric of we're conservatives because we want our own spaces and we understand biology. Or that were homophobic. I've never met a woman who is gender critical and homophobic.
Another thing about conservatives is that it used to be that they didn't understand science/biology, many are religious so they would believe in creationism vs evolution. Some still do. But now it's liberals who don't understand what "sex" is and say things like sex is a spectrum. Have no understanding of science/biology.
It's like they've started to follow a new religion and all common sense has gone out the window.
It's. Not surprising that detransitioners call gender ideology a cult.
Anyway, this is a great post. I'm sorry you had to deal with these types of males.
TL;DR: transwomen are often using transitioning as a scapegoat to be the worst and most pathetic possible man with a tinge of fetish stuff. Even when they're genuine it's still harmful to overall radical feminist change and ideologies. I've met real ones and they still have sociopathic narcissist on the menu, I promise.
TRANSWOMEN ARE MEN
I've noticed a pattern the last few years in abusive men co-opting causes du jour - including suddenly "discovering" they're non-binary, queer and/or gay and/or claiming to be a male feminist.
My narcissistic socipath stalker from college was a serial abuser of women who made cruel jokes about people of color and claimed bullied gay kids who die by suicide are just weak and doing it for the attention.
Now he's "come out" as non-binary and is publicly taking a stand for gay rights and being a feminist ally. It's bizarre and unsettling to see a racist, misogynistic fratboy with a long history of hurting women playact at being a sensitive do-gooder.
Honestly, it's just another way for him to feed his narcissism and give him access to a fresh supply of victims. He never had a stable identity and mirrored whoever he was victimizing that week, so I guess this development isn't a surprise.
He's one of many, many guys I've seen do this. Activist circles are full of these predators.
I love this post.
I'm so sorry this happened to you.
Didn't deserve this. I hate that they think being a woman absolves them of any accountability.
I'm bisexual and I would not want to risk my already fragile mental health (thank you academic burn out) by dating a transwoman or transman.
I am already concerned for my mental health and finances.
I am touch averse af
This is just nope nope
I read your comment, and I was wondering if you are open to some constructive feedback. I respect your right to express your opinions and feelings, but something feels wrong here, and maybe it's me misreading you.
You contradict yourself and are inconsistent in some places. For example, you say that trans women are insecure and cry about not being attractive enough, but also say that they are rude and arrogant and think they can get away with anything. You also say that trans women are lazy and do nothing, but also say that they make more money than you. You also say that you are charismatic and did everything right, but also admit that you were sexually assaulted or raped by five out of eight trans women you dated. These statements do not make sense together.
Respectfully, maybe continuing to date in this way isn't the best way forward. Do you really believe the best solution is "being a bitch to them"? Date people who bring out the best in you, avoid whatever this is.